I can see this two ways (sympathetic towards either men or women):

1. the problem does indeed lie with men because of how they see relationships with the opposite sex as transactional, “Why should we support this if it’s not helping men?” Is empathy harder for men to handle just due to how our brains are wired compared to women? Can we ever see past our own self-interests?

2. of course women would want men to volunteer their time for yet one more thing in life that will badger them and make them feel bad for just existing. And why shouldn’t men want anything in return, as if women are paragons of virtue who don’t also see things transactionally? Women like to place all the blame on men without ever doing any self-reflection. Women are more likely to make selfish demands of men than they are to selflessly help them. Feminism isn’t about true equality more than it’s about gaining dominance over men.

I can even see elements of argument 1 inside of argument 2 and vice versa, but I guess this is moldymemes, so I don’t even know that any of this matters.