I ride an electric bike instead of driving, gentle exercise but I’m sure it makes a difference. Pokemon go walks, yoga 4x a week at a group class, weightlifting less than once a week. Yardwork too, hauling things around. I got running shoes but have not deployed them yet, I’d like to run once a week only. I do move around a lot. I read somewhere that if you wanted to be fit after you are 50 you really need to exercise 3 hours a day, and it seems true. Not like lifting for 3 hours every day but if I was retired I’d do cardio every morning, lifting every noon, yoga every evening except one day totally off everything each week.

Also, keep a glass of water at your desk. Get up to fill it, drink, get up to pee, repeat. So that you aren’t sitting for too long.

Hmm.

Honestly John Rys Davies, based solely on Dominic Monaghan’s description of him ordering dinner when filming Lord of the Rings.

"John Rhys-Davies… took us to a restaurant. And it was when we’d only just started to get to know John. And we sat down at this huge, long table, and he said, “I think I will order the food for tonight.” And we said, “Oh, ok, on you go John.” And you know, we were having a conversation, and the waitress came over, and John ordered food that would probably have fed 35, maybe 40 people. And there were about 12 of us. And he just said, “We’ll have nine lobster and 15 shrimp, and 12 red snapper, 15 filet mignons, and some grilled mushrooms. I’ll have 12 onions and a wild boar…” You know? All this kind of stuff - just like, “Pheasants, and grouse, and - do you have partridge? Bring the partridge.”

Standing on the side of a road (a real road here in town) with a group, waiting for a bus, when the ground underneath us starts to rise - it’s not the ground, it’s a giant spider! And as it emerges and starts lumbering down the road we realize it is also our transportation, the bus stop was the bus.

I think that was the weirdest moment I have experienced.

I should probably break out the alt account but whatever. No of course not all but probably more of us like it rough than guys do, judging by the comments. One of the best things about getting older, sex-wise, is old guys have stamina and find it harder to get off so can do harder for longer so that I too can get off. I think it’s fair to say that because the stimulation from PIV is indirect (compared to direct clitoral stimulation) in my experience it can work better to be more physically forceful with it.

“Do what you want with me/have your way with me” is not a sexy thing to say though. It sounds like a bad romance novel thing. “What do you want/need?” or “harder please, slower please” you can say what you need without feeling too bossy, if feeling bossy is a turnoff.

Fontaines DC, the most recent album. Plus the cover Porter Robinson did of Favorite from that album.

That song with Waxahatchee and MJ Lenderman, Right Back to It.

Nilufer Yanya album My Method Actor

Joshua Ray Walker, anything by him is so good.

I learned to be cool in hot temperature by being still, in the shade, with a breeze, it’s very hot and humid here but also windy usually.

Trees help so much. It is noticeably cooler at the park than in the city.

In the house when there is not air conditioning, roofed porches and opening the windows with fans pulling air through the house helps.

Yes, 65F for the winter or lower, I hate the heater, and yes, 78F in summer, the heat pump struggles and it’s plenty cool enough, feels cool compared to outside.

ETA I grew up in Florida without air conditioning. No central air until I was 24, sometimes window units. And at school no air conditioning till 7th grade and they kept it fucking FREEZING in that school so you would be going always from hot outside to so cold inside, it was worse than none.

People absolutely can adapt to the humidity and heat but buildings do not, they hold up so much better with the central air drying them out.

Happy Easter to any who celebrate. Wrapping up the weekend with a margarita sbagliatto. Made a pitcher of margaritas, but since I already had both a mimosa and a glass of wine with dinner,. I didn’t want anything too strong, so margarita plus Cava* plus some mineral sparkling water.

• I cannot recommend strongly enough - the name is silly but Raventos i Blanc Blanc Blanc de Blancs Xaro-lo is so ridiculously good, and not expensive, I have bought this same “champagne” for every party since I discovered it. It’s dry but flavorful with a gorgeous fizz from natural fermentation.

No and no.

Ponzi scheme or something like that? Yes, I would snitch. Bank robbery, please do not tell me. Cheating on taxes? I will judge you but no, not turn you in, if you get caught you get caught.

Amaretto Bourbon sour

2oz bourbon

1oz amaretto

Juice of one lemon

White of one egg

Dry shake then shake with ice. Strain into glass over one big clear ice, or up in a cold glass.

Caw! Caw!

(Thank you! Thank you!)

Like the lesbian necromancers in space? I can see that. I love the Kushiel books but can tell they’re written by a woman.

In sort of alternate history fantasy where I think there is no jarring gender stuff:

I’ve been reading the Katherine Kerr Deverry books, they are old but I think you might like those. The YA ones starting with The Thief of Attolia, if you haven’t read those, is delightful, and doesn’t take much time. Robin Hobb, but you already found her, and definitely Naomi Novik as recommended by others. I like most all the Django Wexler books, he’s a dude but writes from both men’s and women’s perspectives seamlessly. Katherine Kerr, Robin Hobb, and Naomi Novik write from the perspective of non-human characters too, that might be something to look for when you are looking for a writer who can change perspectives.

I’m in accounting and considering what I read in the news, it was surprising to me how honest it is in real, regular, non public companies. We get real audits that are trying to validate our records, we give them our real work to look at, try so hard to figure out the real cost and revenue each month and year, to allocate things correctly, nobody is pushing for some fake result, only for a clear picture.

Those companies with fraud? A lot of things have to go wrong, and someone has to be really trying hard to defraud, and needs to convince others to go along with that. Most companies hire accounting because they actually want to have a good picture of what’s going on financially.

Yes. Habit.

Corviknight. A seven foot tall crow is terrifying!

ETA the best design is Banette.

This is one of the examples where I like our crazy words because it shows what these were.

The Sun’s Day

The Moon’s day

Tiw’s Day (a god of war)

Odin’s Day - Wodensdag - Wednesday

Thor’s day, Thursday.

Friday - Frigga’s Day

Saturday we get from the Latin, right? Saturn’s day.

So when I am remembering Wednesday it’s always just Odin’s Day Wodensdag Wednesdag Wednesday, I don’t think about it phonetically since I hear it and see it all the time. But I like the word.

A lot of our really not phonetic words work like that, I’m sure Through used to be pronounced more like Thrugh and now it’s throo we just kept the written word the same.

Please + thank you

Sil vous plait et Merci

Bitte + Danke

Por favor + Gracias

Shukran thanks in Arabic but I don’t know how to say please.

I’m reasonably good at surviving pregnancy and childbirth, and nursing. Think all my other skills are only useful after the agricultural revolution.

I am a cat person but have had both dogs and cats for 20 years now. I like dogs a lot but would never want to be without a cat in the house.

I’m a native English speaker who learned to read at the same time I was learning to talk, very young, so wasn’t really sounding things out, more looking at the shapes of the words. There were always words I knew, because in context they made sense, but didn’t know how to pronounce!

Our spelling, while nominally phonetic, is really more historical. So I kind of like it now, it shows where words are from.

The only language I’ve tried to learn is Spanish, and I don’t have to worry about the spelling since it’s pretty phonetic and so close to our pronunciation, and I hear it a lot, so I don’t even think about it, any word I can see I can pronounce (but that doesn’t help much with understanding, only with reciting)

A c in English can be K sound or S, I’m not sure how you would have one marker. There are phonetic systems that bridge languages already. If I am writing something phonetically I default to Spanish letters, because their spelling is so consistent.