Some harsh but true advice there, I had to learn most of this the hard way. So far have managed without any mainstream social media (whatsapp aside), but it does make things trickier, I’ll admit.
Another thing I’ll add, and I might get downvoted to hell for this one, sometimes in life you just gotta be a cunt. Ya gotta realise that the vast, vast majority of humans are selfish and only think of themselves. For the longest time I was constantly treading on eggshells around people afraid of even looking at someone the wrong way.
Sometimes you just gotta do something for yourself. Think for yourself. Speak your mind at risk of upsetting someone else. Put yourself first for once. Make a rash decision or two. No one is perfect, it’s what makes us human. I’m not saying you should be a cunt 100% of the time, but don’t let people walk all over you. This is advice which helped me actually GAIN a huge number of friends. I came to realise people respect honesty, confidence, and people who speak their mind. And you’ll often find things you build up in your head, people forget about quickly and may never remember - whilst you are sat worrying about it.
It kinda sucks that as a society we don’t value kind-hearted people nearly as much as we should, but I’ve found it’s okay to be brutally honest, as long as you make a positive impact on that person (e.g. help them have a laugh). Theres nothing stopping you being kind-hearted whilst putting yourself out there when you need to.
My thoughts anyway.
Not OP but it didnt read like an insult to me. Idk anyone who would go to all that trouble just to say “get friends”. Some genuinly good advice there, not to say that any of it is relevant to you, but it can be useful to some regardless. I myself have struggled with friends/social networking for most of my life, fuck, still do to some degree now. A lot of what they said struck a nerve with me, but I find a lot of it to be true.
See my reply to him for my take on it.