Matchmaker, matchmaker, find me a match. One of my kids told me she did wish I could just match her with someone compatible because she thought I’d do a better job on her behalf than she would.

That’s the bottom line, right? Now in our situation, I just told her no. Because I think she is wrong. But if all of culture was tilted towards this, if it was a common practice here, then sure I would probably have thought she was right and asked around.

I do agree with the answer upstream about combining families, getting a good network of extended family is a powerful resource. Not one I’d personally trade my kids to get, but again if it was the more common practice, would I question it? Probably not.