Dr Hilary Caldwell’s new book Slutdom looks at how women navigate sex and shame, and at all ages. She shares what she’s learned as both a sex worker and as an academic

Dr Hilary Caldwell’s new book Slutdom looks at how women navigate sex and shame, and at all ages. She shares what she’s learned as both a sex worker and as an academic.

  • recursive_recursion [they/them]English
    4•5 months ago

    The issue here is that marking articles like these as NSFW perpetuates the core issue of the content discussed: that this is a woman problem that should be talked about in private.

    I guess that’s where the majority of downvotes come from as well: “this should not be viewed in the workplace” is a catastrophic signal in this context for the message.

    yeaaa I can totally see where my request would be problematic to say the least

    All of this is my personal opinion of course but I wanted to leave you with more than just a two word comment!

    Yup and Thank you!🤗

    • all the points you made felt solid and made sense to me

    based on your and other commentors I feel like I have a better grasp on future moderation decisions

    for today, I def fucked up so this is a learning momement for me

    again thank you for commenting!🤗🌻

    • @[email protected]English
      2•5 months ago

      Oh that’s not a fuckup in my book!

      You’re already doing what a good moderator separates you one from an average one: engage, explain and adapt!

      • recursive_recursion [they/them]English
        3•5 months ago

        ehhh I dunno

        feels like I just made a fool out of myself in public😬

        You’re already doing what a good moderator separates you one from an average one: engage, explain and adapt!

        much appreciated🤗

        • @Passerby6497English
          2•5 months ago

          You’re owning a mistake in public, and explaining that and why you understand you were wrong. That’s not making a fool of yourself, that’s publicly growing as a person.

        • @vxxEnglish
          2•5 months ago

          Nah, you’re fine. You show qualities that a lot of moderators are lacking and are rightfully criticised for. You engage in discussion, are open to get your mind changed but don’t blindly follow anyone’s suggestion without wrapping your own mind around it.

          I would gladly follow your lead if I would still be in the business of moderating.

          It’s a learning process that will never stop, and everyone does mistakes. In moderation quite often because you have to make a lot of decisions in a short time.

          What seperates a good mod is that they would acknowledge those mistakes and try to make it better next time.

          I’m from Europe and I had to adjust my understanding what NSFW is to the US market. I would set the bar way lower myself in the beginning.