What’s wrong with bugs? They’re cool, while a made up string of characters (that sounds good) might be better I don’t see what’s wrong with using an uncommon scientific name. Then again being honest is likely helpful.
There’s nothing wrong with bugs. It’s all about intent, and he clearly intended to hide this from her because he knew (correctly) it would be a problem for her. So it was a lie by withholding relevant information. About their daughters name. Its messed up. It’s also dumb because it’s so easy to look up the origin of a name that this “secret” isn’t really one at all.
If he had said “I didn’t think it mattered so I didn’t think to tell her” that would make sense, but the fact that he said he deliberately hid it (ie harmless secret) means he knew she wouldn’t like it. Which makes sense because I think it would be pretty common to get “no” for an answer when you ask your spouse if you can name your kid after a bug.
Mm, yeah, that’s possible, too. I think I just considered that to be a turn a phrase.
This is almost off-topic, but I’ve always found it kind of funny that people ask questions like these in AITA when they could get an answer if they just thought about it for 5 minutes. Like, “Wow, my wife really hates this. And, it either was or was not my fault, so… hm.”
I was questioning why it became so problematic. It’s still a good name and could totally have been a coincidence.
The name being related to work seems like the main issue to me.
i guess it depends on whether you’re working for someone else or not. I’d guess most independent programmers would rather make new things rather then just fixing what they’ve made before.
In my experience having a common name has that effect too. I feel like every name has the potential for bullies to target it. Also this is only one subcategory of beetle (that most people likely don’t know) if I read it correctly.
What’s wrong with bugs? They’re cool, while a made up string of characters (that sounds good) might be better I don’t see what’s wrong with using an uncommon scientific name. Then again being honest is likely helpful.
There’s nothing wrong with bugs. It’s all about intent, and he clearly intended to hide this from her because he knew (correctly) it would be a problem for her. So it was a lie by withholding relevant information. About their daughters name. Its messed up. It’s also dumb because it’s so easy to look up the origin of a name that this “secret” isn’t really one at all.
It would be, but he did say he thought it was a harmless secret. That could be read as though he didn’t know it would bother her.
Like, my name allegedly means things, but unless my mom really hates the Irish, I don’t think many of them would set her off.
I see your point, but can’t square it.
If he had said “I didn’t think it mattered so I didn’t think to tell her” that would make sense, but the fact that he said he deliberately hid it (ie harmless secret) means he knew she wouldn’t like it. Which makes sense because I think it would be pretty common to get “no” for an answer when you ask your spouse if you can name your kid after a bug.
Mm, yeah, that’s possible, too. I think I just considered that to be a turn a phrase.
This is almost off-topic, but I’ve always found it kind of funny that people ask questions like these in AITA when they could get an answer if they just thought about it for 5 minutes. Like, “Wow, my wife really hates this. And, it either was or was not my fault, so… hm.”
I was questioning why it became so problematic. It’s still a good name and could totally have been a coincidence. The name being related to work seems like the main issue to me.
I guess I left this part out: If you haven’t noticed, many people don’t like bugs.
they give programmers nightmares
What? Why would I have nightmares about the thing that secures my continued paycheck?
I fucking love 'em.
i guess it depends on whether you’re working for someone else or not. I’d guess most independent programmers would rather make new things rather then just fixing what they’ve made before.
Pro level gaslighting
Because having a weird name makes you a target for bullying. Also the name of a loud and annoying beetle is worse.
In my experience having a common name has that effect too. I feel like every name has the potential for bullies to target it. Also this is only one subcategory of beetle (that most people likely don’t know) if I read it correctly.