• @disguy_ovahea
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    892 months ago

    I don’t understand why some people get so bent out of shape over the term cisgender. Latin prefixes are even more common in English than abbreviations like AMAB.

    • @[email protected]
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      772 months ago

      It’s just transphobia. If you don’t have cis (wo)men and trans (wo)men, then you just have (wo)men and trans (wo)men, which implies that trans (wo)men are not (wo)men.

      • @disguy_ovahea
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        432 months ago

        Got it. I didn’t understand because they make it seem like it’s an insult to be called cisgender. They’re actually just upset that it removes an avenue of bigotry.

        Fucking gross.

        • femtech
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          192 months ago

          They think it’s an insult as they use trans as one.

          • @irreticent
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            72 months ago

            I live in a conservative area and when I’m at the bar I sometimes hear people using the term “liberal” as a slur. I kinda makes me laugh, but also makes me a bit sad.

            • @[email protected]
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              -22 months ago

              I tend to think that conservative is actually a description for limited cognitive means. Progress in any form or shape needs liberal thinking as you wouldn’t find any progressing features by thinking inside the box. Ergo conservatism is inherently the bane of progress. Labeling yourself, proudly even, is just a tell-tale sign that you’re either cognitively limited or afraid of progress. The weird part though is that conservatives lacked the drive to counter the idea that reactionary or regressive thinking people (i.e mostly fanatics or fascists,monarchists ) may be called conservative. They are not by the definition of the word itself

    • @Ultraviolet
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      222 months ago

      The reasoning is simple: it’s just straight up transphobia. The term “cis” is just a neutral descriptor to pair with “trans” with no implication of being right or wrong. They’re mad at the existence of a term for the majority that doesn’t imply an insult to the minority.

      • @disguy_ovahea
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        Thanks. Another commenter pointed that out. They’re not really taking offense to the term so much as objecting to the concept of genders differing from biological sex. It’s awful.

        There’s no reason to challenge the term otherwise. Cis is Latin for “on this side of” and trans is “across, beyond, or on the other side.” There’s really nothing objectionable about either prefix.

    • @[email protected]
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      182 months ago

      As someone who used to think it was an offensive term, it’s likely ignorance and because it’s often used in a deragatory and dehumanizing way on the internet.

      At first I didn’t know what cisgendered or cis meant, but I definitely saw it used to describe a group of people non-cis folks didn’t like very much. Of course I eventually learned, but still had a bit of a distaste due to the initial impression.

      Also, I always saw “cishet” as a cheeky way of saying “cis shit” because it was also often used negatively in the places I originally came across the term. Once someone explained it in a comment section I finally understood it wasn’t hateful terminology but instead descriptive.

      You can’t stop someone from being negative but at least knowing what the words are meant to mean can help identify a bad person rather than bad word.

      • @disguy_ovahea
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        202 months ago

        Interesting. I didn’t have that experience myself, but I’ve definitely seen those types of comments. I absolutely understand how that could leave a bad impression. I’ll be more mindful of educational opportunities when having discussions about it in the future. Exposure and understanding are the enemies of bigotry.

        Thanks for the insight!

      • Codex
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        22 months ago

        Bigots often have a problem with being accurately described because gaslighting is part of the strategy. Useful ignorants provide cover.

        • @[email protected]
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          132 months ago

          Look, I’ve never been anti-gay or anti-trans, but this kind of attitude isn’t winning over the people who are in the middle.

          I’m talking about generalizing and stereotyping type statements that, even if you aren’t homo/transphobic, feel like they’re targeted at you. When someone says, to give a hyperbolic example, “cisgendered white men are bigots”, they are not actually referring to all cis white men. But if you’re cis and white, you now know they assume you’re not a good person by default.

          Tribalism is never the way.

      • @kofe
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        12 months ago

        Where were you seeing this online? (How much can I blame cursed social media algorithms feeding you bullshit?)

        • @[email protected]
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          Reddit was where I came across that the most. I don’t use much social media so my exposure is relatively small.

          • @kofe
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            12 months ago

            Interesting. I don’t use social media much either (hence why it’s taken me days to see and respond here lol) but I’ve just never seen it. Not that I don’t believe you. Shit happens

      • @[email protected]
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        -82 months ago

        At first I didn’t know what cisgendered or cis meant, but I definitely saw it used to describe a group of people non-cis folks didn’t like very much. Of course I eventually learned, but still had a bit of a distaste due to the initial impression.

        How long was this “eventually”? I feel like it should be a couple minutes to search and land on the Wikipedia page.

        • @[email protected]
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          62 months ago

          Hmm maybe longer that it should have been, but do you really expect everyone to search for something instead of inferring the meaning based on context?

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              I’m gonna be real with you. I do the same shit. I don’t understand something? Well, I have a phone on me so unless it’s horribly complicated I’m about to understand it.

              We aren’t normal in that respect. Most people are happy with their ignorance, or at least that’s my observation so far.

              • @[email protected]
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                12 months ago

                We aren’t normal in that respect

                Given I got 5 down votes and no upvotes on the previous comment, you might be right.