Do you keep them, destroy/delete them, lock them away? What are you doing with your photos of your old self?

Personally I’m a bit torn. On one hand I want to keep them because they are still memories, on the other hand I never want to see them again. So I will probably lock them away/archive them somewhere.

But what about you?

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    4 months ago

    I was given a curated book full of them, it was well intentioned and I do appreciate the effort my mum put into it, but making the title “Deadname to Sasha” fucking stings lol

    It’s frankly next to impossible for me to look through, lots of dysphoric photos and the photos of me young just make me resentful of having gone through first puberty, my body is so damaged…

    It just sits there, but I’ll probably never let anyone look at it including myself

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      34 months ago

      oof, I could imagine my mom doing this to me. I think it would hurt especially for all the ways it would make me feel alienated, as it communicates my mom really doesn’t understand me or my dysphoria (and worse, wouldn’t care about how I feel or how it impacts me, as though the book would be more about her own desires than mine).

      That said, I could imagine someday producing my own transition album like that and I could imagine that being powerful, so I think the fact that someone else would make it for me is part of what would bother me.

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        34 months ago

        Yeah it wasn’t really intended as a transition timeline in my case. My mum made a similar book of my older brother’s life (childhood to adulthood) and just kinda also made mine about coming out…