• @Emerald
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    people would rather lie and sneak around

    Well yeah. That’s a lot more fun then a conversation. And if you don’t care about your relationship anyways, why does it matter how you end it really? Might as well cheat

    Edit: okay I’m being downvoted so I should mention that I know this “breakup strategy” isn’t for everyone but if you don’t mind permenantly burning a bridge, to me there is no harm in it. As long as the person you are cheating on them with knows what you are doing and is okay with it

    • Hugucinogens
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      61 month ago

      If you don’t care about a relationship, the other person still might, and them being hurt should matter to you.

      End the relationship since you don’t care about it anyways, to let the other person move on with the least lies and sense of betrayal, and then fuck everyone you wish.

      Cheating isn’t a way to end a relationship, cheating is lying in order to keep it longer.

      • @Emerald
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        Cheating isn’t a way to end a relationship, cheating is lying in order to keep it longer.

        Maybe that’s what it is for you

        • @mycodesucks
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          Maybe that’s what it is for you

          This seems like the same logic those people who keep a relative’s corpse around for years to keep collecting their social security checks use…

          • @Emerald
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            That sounds like a great plan honestly

            • @mycodesucks
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              31 month ago

              Well, you certainly get points for consistency.

    • erin (she/her)
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      That’s rather selfish. There is harm, but not to you. You’re okay with hurting other people for your own gain to avoid having one difficult conversation. I can only assume that you wouldn’t feel good if a partner treated you like that, so why do so to them? Either you have a general lack of empathy, lack introspective ability, or are just perfectly okay with the idea of being cheated on, and also the idea of someone else hurting because of your own actions. I’m fascinated, and also recommend you try consensual polyamory next time instead.

    • themeatbridge
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      21 month ago

      to me there is no harm in it.

      Well yeah, but you could say the same about hitting a pedestrian with your car. To you, there’s no harm. But the person you’re cheating on, the person who’s trust you’ve violated, who’s time you’ve wasted, who feels stupid and used and humiliated after the relationship is over, there’s a lot of harm for them.

      • @Emerald
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        you could say the same about hitting a pedestrian with your car

        Yeah, and I hit pedestrians with my car all the time!

        Edit: for context I have the all-new f950 goliath

        • themeatbridge
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          11 month ago

          If you’re being sarcastic, neither do I. But I also cheat on my spouse as often as I hit pedestrians with my car.

          • @Emerald
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            11 month ago

            But I also cheat on my spouse as often as I hit pedestrians with my car.

            Like 30 times a day?