So I know everyone is going to answer “yes”, but I want actual real thoughts. I just want to know where I fit in.

I’m AMAB, and present as male, at least on the surface. I’ve always felt that was wrong though. But I don’t necessarily think I’m a woman. I wish I was more feminine. And recently I started full body laser hair removal, and I have pretty long hair, and currently have my toe nails painted. But I also have a beard, and otherwise present totally as cis.

Am I “trans”? I don’t feel “cis”, but I feel like calling myself trans just isn’t accurate and is inappropriate. Is there any other option?

And a complicating factor is that I’m basically only attracted to female presenting people. I see a lot of mtf trans people posting online “t4t”. Would other trans people consider me “trans”?

  • AdaM
    9•3 months ago

    I’m AMAB, and present as male, at least on the surface. I’ve always felt that was wrong though

    Then you’re trans enough. It’s literally that simple.

    Are you binary? Are you a woman? What is your sexuality? What is the right label to use for your experiences? Only you can answer that, and it will take time. And the answers will likely change over time as you explore what you want and unpack a lot of the baggage that comes with growing up in a transphobic world.

    But it doesn’t matter what the answers to any of those things are. It doesn’t matter who you’re attracted to. If cis isn’t comfortable for you, then you’re as trans as it gets :)