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    83 months ago

    Think of it as % of being gay.

    Maybe you notice a guy be good at something, o r notice he has big muscles. You’re now 10% gay. Just make few other examples like it, you just think you’re being friendly And simply like being around them.

    This takes time to piece together and being open about your sexuality being a spectrum rather than binary is a tough mental barrier because your entire life you were told to like X.

    Admitting that the other gender has a nice ass takes time. And it is not 100% sexually driven. This applies to both men and female, but everyone is different. I’m just trying to give you some backstory to your women in 20s question as a possible scenario out of many.

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      103 months ago

      Also, it’s very normal for straight women to appreciate beautiful women. When we look at porn, often I’ll focus on the woman, because I know how that feels, so instead of thinking “what I’d like to do to him” I am thinking “what would it feel to be her”, understand? But tried sex with women and nope, is not like sex for me. Not distressing just nothing there, I am heterosexual.

      Having said all that - my kids were raised without any fear around sexual preference and all have been confident in whether they were into men, women, or both, from the start of their sexuality. So I do agree it’s family/social pressure or expectations a lot of the time. When those are not present, kids do find their way.