• Angry_Autist (he/him)
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    In 5+ decades of living I have never once met a sane vegan, not once.

    And I’ve met hundreds…

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      For the most part, the “unreasonable vegan” stereotype comes from two places.

      1. Confirmation bias. Veganism makes people uncomfortable with their own decisions, so people spread around the most outrageous stories about vegans as a defense mechanism. This is the same thing that happens in various circles with anyone whose mere existence makes other people insecure; e.g., teetotalers, or polyamorous people.
      2. Just plain disagreeing with them. There are lots of vegan arguments that are logically valid, but they sound outrageous if you don’t already agree with them. People have trouble looking past their initial emotional reactions, so they respond to logically valid arguments with mere incredulity.
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        There’s a 3rd source: Trying for 3 decades to have a reasonable conversation with one, with hundreds of attempts made.

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            No you wouldn’t, they never go anywhere except to heated exchanges of unpleasant labels.

            There’s really no use in talking to them, nor anything to be learned or won. It’s just losses for everyone.

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              I am a vegan. Is this conversation unreasonable?

              Are you talking to the same person, or the same few people, repeatedly? There certainly are people out there who just are unreasonable. You can’t expect individuals to change.

              Otherwise, I guess (and I admit that this is biased in my favor) that you simply disagree with each other at a foundational level, and that’s causing you to talk past each other.

              I think that most people don’t really know how to discourse with people who have differing ethical foundations, because it can lead to situations where a person who meets all the societal criteria of a “good person” is nonetheless committing (according to whatever ethical precepts) a horrible crime. But, in this context, accusing someone of committing a horrible crime is not unreasonable; in fact, it’s too reasonable; it involves prioritizing reason over tact and politeness.

              • Angry_Autist (he/him)
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                Are you talking to the same person, or the same few people, repeatedly?

                Roughly 10% are repeat conversations, though I’ve rarely had a contact be kept past 3 exchanges, and not a ‘few’ people by any metric.

                you simply disagree with each other at a foundational level, and that’s causing you to talk past each other.

                I appreciate how you are trying to make this a ‘both sides’ thing, but it really isn’t and I have no way of imparting 30 years of frustrating experience in a way you will find meaningful.

                Since you claim to be a reasonable vegan, then maybe this is the best place for this:

                1. What are your plans for all the currently living domesticated animals if, hypothetically, meat eating is made illegal?

                2. Have you ever considered that being raised by humans for consumption is literally the most wildly successful species survival strategy that natural selection has ever thrown up? Literally no wild animal thrives as well as a cared for domesticated example, and domesticated animals released in the wild have an abysmal survival rate. (it is literally animal cruelty to release most domesticated animals into the wild, with the exception of pigs. They can re-adapt no problems)

                3. Meat is one of the most nutrient dense foods out there and is likely the entire reason we were able to develop these incredibly energy and nutrient expensive brains, have you considered what the long term species ramifications are for us if we choose to stop a standard practice that has been with us since before our species was even human yet?

                4. What is your stance on pets?

                5. Do you not think the critical need for specific supplements to maintain good health is a sign that the diet was never intended for our normal operation?

                6. I would like to hear your opinion on parents raising their infants to be vegan from birth.

                These are the questions I would usually ask to vegans I meet in the world and online. Most responses are immediate verbal abuse and a refusal to continue communications.

                I sincerely hope you are a better person than that and I can FINALLY have this discussion start to finish.

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                  What are your plans for all the currently living domesticated animals if, hypothetically, meat eating is made illegal?

                  I haven’t here advocated for making meat-eating illegal. If nothing else, at the current moment, that’s infeasible for a number of reasons, and even if it became mostly feasible, there would probably always have to be some exceptions (e.g., people who have very specific dietary requirements, although maybe lab-grown meat could plug that hole?).

                  That said, thinking purely hypothetically, I recognize two likely endgame scenarios.

                  1. A gradual phasing out of animal agriculture. Suppose legislation is passed that increasingly limits animal agriculture over the course of, say, twenty years. Animal stocks dwindle over time, eventually being reduced to nothing.
                  2. A mass holocaust, akin to what Denmark did to their mink stocks in 2020. This sounds horrible, but it is, ethically speaking, actually the better option, because it results in the smallest amount of total suffering (i.e., the area under the daily suffering curve is greater in Option 1 then in Option 2).

                  Have you ever considered that being raised by humans for consumption is literally the most wildly successful species survival strategy that natural selection has ever thrown up?

                  This is completely irrelevant. For me, veganism is basically just what happens when you take utilitarianism and extend it to include the experiences of non-human animals. I care about individuals. I don’t care one whit about species per se.

                  Meat is one of the most nutrient dense foods out there and is likely the entire reason we were able to develop these incredibly energy and nutrient expensive brains, have you considered what the long term species ramifications are for us if we choose to stop a standard practice that has been with us since before our species was even human yet?

                  Do you not think the critical need for specific supplements to maintain good health is a sign that the diet was never intended for our normal operation?

                  I’ll take both of these at the same time, because my thoughts on them are basically the same.

                  We were not designed by a god. We were not “intended” for anything. Evolution has no normative value. To believe that it does is pseudoscience (or, perhaps, pseudo-philosophy).

                  People who argue that veganism is “unnatural” are arbitrarily picking out one out of the innumerable ways that the lives of humans today differ from those of the past. If I suggested that we ought to revert to being subsistence hunter-gatherers in Africa living in groups of ~100 people, you would call me insane. So the mere fact that something is different from the conditions in which we evolved means absolutely nothing.

                  The question is simply this: can we reduce suffering? If we can, we should, regardless of how “unnatural” the solution is.

                  If you can provide me a scientific argument against veganism in principle, that would be worth considering. Merely gesturing at the need for supplementation says nothing to me. If it works, it works.

                  What is your stance on pets?

                  I haven’t figured this one out for myself yet. I think the anti-pet people have compelling arguments, and I have a lot of cognitive dissonance over that fact.

                  I would like to hear your opinion on parents raising their infants to be vegan from birth.

                  This one I’m not sure about, at least right now, simply due our lack of knowledge. My guess is that it’s theoretically possible to raise an infant as a vegan without any problems, but that it’s more difficult to do it right. I don’t know if I’d trust myself to do it. I think this is a problem that will require a lot of studies to figure out, but I also think it’s worth figuring out.

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                    A mass holocaust, akin to what Denmark did

                    …I’m trying to be respectful but I cannot in this circumstance. Your utilitarianism equates mass slaughter with ‘the least suffering’. That is monstrous.

                    I don’t care one whit about species per se.

                    It’s clear that you value your ideals over practical considerations. Species extinction is a great tragedy, and it is happening at a frightening pace. Domestication is mutualism, animals receive great benefit from it in the form of better nutrition and medical care. You treat it as some form of inhumane torture and deny its greatest benefit. I cannot accept your arguments here.

                    We were not designed by a god.

                    And here the bullshit begins. I never ONCE fucking invoked a supernatural deity here and was SPECIFICALLY referring to how our diets have shaped our physiology over the last several hundred thousand years. Honestly I wanted to just stop this discussion here and block you, but I am trying to be a better person no matter how hard you make it.

                    It is an unarguable fact that animals are specialized to their diet, and this manifests in actual physical differences between species, this has nothing to do with religion or theism and frankly I am absolutely incensed you would take this bullshit tactic. But of course it’s one I’m familiar with as most of you use it.

                    f I suggested that we ought to revert to being subsistence hunter-gatherers in Africa living in groups of ~100 people, you would call me insane.

                    No I wouldn’t, not at all, in fact I abhor the fact that agriculture ever became a thing. The problem is with our current population, infrastructure, and biodiversity loss, it is impossible. I want to say a bunch of unkind words to you for making such a ridiculous assumption about my position, but I am being polite and not replying in such a manner.

                    If humanity was less than a billion people it MAY have worked but that ship has long sailed.

                    If we can, we should, regardless of how “unnatural” the solution is.

                    I STRONGLY disagree, and have demonstrated already how your utilitarianism’s goal of ‘less suffering’ is pretty arbitrary and your outcomes do not fit its claim. We are the products of a ridiculous amount of specialization that even cutting edge medicine is only now beginning to understand, your embrace of ‘unnatural’ solutions (which is a stupid phrase all things considered we are a part of nature) is ill-planned as far as outcomes. You make ASSUMPTIONS that certain outcomes are the only result with no evidence, when the real world is rarely ever amenable to such clear cut cause and effect relationships.

                    If you can provide me a scientific argument against veganism in principl

                    It has never been my position to change your or any other person’s opinion of veganism, I know how useless it is to try and convince others they are being irrational.

                    I have a lot of cognitive dissonance over that fact.

                    It is an established fact that pets are healthier and longer lived than their wild cousins, this is one case where you choose to ignore your utilitarianism because it conflicts with your groupthink. If your goal is to reduce total suffering then every pet should have a home and every home should have a pet.

                    My guess is that it’s theoretically possible to

                    There is clear evidence that even non-vegan infant formula causes long term health issues and that the only complete nutrition we have now for infants is human breast milk. I do not see how a vegan solution could even come close.

                    Children have died because vegan parents refused to compromise their ideals. This has happened multiple times resulting in arrests and convictions for child abuse.

                    You have a fucktonne of these very dangerous assumptions about outcomes that are not supported by observation and study, and you hold your ideals above them both.

                    I have to thank you for actually responding back meaningfully, though your answers only served to illustrate what I feel are the dangerous failings of vegan ideology.

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          Having personally known several perfectly normal and sane vegans, maybe your “reasonable conversation” is a bit more combative than you believe. Vegans are just normal people. Some will be crazy. Some will be normal. If your experience with your hundreds of vegans you’ve met is 100% unreasonable, then you’re definitely the problem. Someone choosing to avoid animal products for personal health or environmental reasons, or any other personal reason, is inherently not unreasonable. They might be unreasonable if they try to force their ideas on others, but defending their own choices isn’t unreasonable. Tone down your confirmation bias and aggression, and you might find that just like every large enough group, people are still people and they vary.

          Edit: for the record, I’m not vegan.

          • Angry_Autist (he/him)
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            Yep, that’s always the response. 'it’s not the inherent radicalism of vegan ideology that is the problem, but the fact that you didn’t talk nice to them (which I am assuming because I wasn’t there).

            Reported and blocked.

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              What radicalism? What part of that ideal is radical? Also, a bizarre reaction. “My beliefs were challenged in the slightest, therefore this person must be silenced.” Weirdo.

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      Calling a group of people insane is so cool and good 👍🏻

      I’m not vegan. But I find it very shady to talk shit about people like this.

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        Some seeming innocent ideals breed significantly more fanaticism across all class and culture lines, we should all have learned that by now.

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      I have met 1 and married her. But yo be fair she is just vegetarian whi developed a dairy allergy knocking out the non veg part of her diet

      Makes a dumb good steak too

      • Angry_Autist (he/him)
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        I have to admit, diet restriction vegans (and not the ones that just think meat is icky and can get a doctor to sign off on it) do not fall into the general stereotype but then only one of them ever had a chance to speak to me and she would sneak chicken occasionally so I don’t really consider her vegan as such. Also she was a work associate and I normally never bring up the subject in the office.

        There may be reasonable vegans out there, and I have actively sought them on forums and IRL through school clubs and protests. I have never IRL raised my voice, never used a derogatory label harsher than ‘leafeater’ and that only once. Yet I am so ridiculously burned out by the arguments and harsh words I’ve endured that I’m done holding any hope out any longer.

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          I call those ideolgical vegans and yes they drive me nuts too

          • Angry_Autist (he/him)
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            In respect for your wife and those like her, from now on I will try and use ‘ideological vegan’ to describe the specific subgrouping.

            Thanks for being the one sane person in this thread.

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          You sound like what I like to call a “debatist.” No one wants to be challenged on their personal choices. You don’t seem to be approaching this concept with an open mind. Can you define what makes anything they say unreasonable? I am not vegan, but I can recognize, definitively, that veganism is better for the environment (by far), healthy (if you make sure you’re getting all the nutrients you need, just like any diet), and less cruel to animals. You can choose to disagree that those conclusions mean you need to cut out animal products, but those aren’t opinions up for debate. Farming meat is far worse for the environment, vegan diets are perfectly healthy, and obviously, killing animals isn’t something the animal wants.

          Again, you can disagree with their conclusion that those reasons mean you shouldn’t eat animal products, but denying that they’re true is like denying climate change. I’m not vegan, so clearly I didn’t come to the same conclusion, but I’m not trying to purport that anyone that does is somehow unreasonable.

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            No one wants to be challenged on their personal choices.

            Yet that is what every vegan does to carnists, in many cases very viciously. I am NOT going up to vegans and telling them to stop being vegan, nor am I judging them for their dietary choices. I ask them questions like ‘What would be your plans for all the current living domesticated animals in the hypothetical situation where eating meat is outlawed?’ and they flip their shit on a regular basis. I go out of my way to present everything I ask as neutral as possible but all my effort has never once mattered.

            illing animals isn’t something the animal wants.

            I think you are attributing human qualities to nonhuman consciousnesses. There’s a lot of evidence that the concept of death doesn’t even exist in most animal minds, as well as the fact that animals in the wild suffer FAR more disease, discomfort, illness and death than domesticated and cared for livestock.

            “debatist”

            That isn’t even a real word… I’m sorry I can’t take you seriously anymore.

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              Every vegan

              Factually incorrect and anecdotal

              the concept of death doesn’t even exist in most animal minds

              https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8602129/

              Good read, though anyone that’s seen a pet mourn their owner or their friend knows that’s not true already.

              can’t take you seriously anymore

              It’s a portmanteau of debater and statist. Frankly, I don’t care what you think about me. You’re clearly biased beyond any reason as to the motives of others, to the point of making false blanket statements about entire groups. Any time someone says “all _____ are _____,” there is a problem and they should be questioned. Did the vegans you approach solicit your question? If they did not, then mind your own business. If they did, and “flip their shit,” (X to doubt on the reliability of this narrator) then that one person had an issue. The sheer fact that you can easily find very chill vegans online or irl without much effort means you’re a statistical anomaly, an asshole, or misrepresenting the truth.