You’re missing their point, I think, which I believe is essentially “a disparity between how you perceive yourself and how I perceive you does not inherently constitute an injustice on my part”.
While I agree with your sentiment, there is a difference between not understanding and actively disparaging. The former is fine - there’s plenty of stuff I don’t understand, and I just don’t comment on it because I have no business doing so. Where I take objection is when the lack of understanding transforms into bigotry and disparaging remarks.
By all means be ignorant (and I don’t mean that in a derogatory manner - we are all ignorant about various things), but don’t let your ignorance manifest into negativity.
Somebody has a gender you don’t understand. Tough
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Somebody doesn’t understand your gender. Tough.
Nothing a discussion can’t clarify.
You’re missing their point, I think, which I believe is essentially “a disparity between how you perceive yourself and how I perceive you does not inherently constitute an injustice on my part”.
While I agree with your sentiment, there is a difference between not understanding and actively disparaging. The former is fine - there’s plenty of stuff I don’t understand, and I just don’t comment on it because I have no business doing so. Where I take objection is when the lack of understanding transforms into bigotry and disparaging remarks.
By all means be ignorant (and I don’t mean that in a derogatory manner - we are all ignorant about various things), but don’t let your ignorance manifest into negativity.
Agreed.
Don’t understand. Fine.
Assumptions, deliberate misunderstandings and misrepresentations. Not fine.