I saw that other post about worst dates and honestly can’t relate since I’ve never dated anyone, I just wanted to know if I was the only one here. That’s it, you don’t have to go deeper if you don’t want to

  • @[email protected]OP
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    113 months ago

    And that’s the problem for many, we just don’t have friends, we don’t connect with anyone, social activities just ruin my day, I don’t have a job and forcing myself at being more “normal” feels like a job. Is not natural. I wish people would understand me and some girl would just synch with me under those conditions, because I can be cuddly and likeable enough with one person. But I know that is not going to happen.

    • @Thatuserguy
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      73 months ago

      It’s definitely not a natural feeling, and I totally get what you mean about it feeling like a job. I still struggle with it sometimes myself. I literally have to play mind games with myself to force myself to go out at times.

      The unfortunate thing is, if you don’t try at all, you’re not going to get better. Like I said, it’ll be rough at first. You’ll feel super uncomfortable and want to run back to the safety of your solitude. But you have to push through it, or you’ll end up stuck where you are.

      Mental health access is not great, but if you have an option to speak with a therapist, that may be a good first step if you need a helpful push

        • classic
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          33 months ago

          Whenever you write something like that, you are training it to be true

            • The Stoned Hacker
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              13 months ago

              Have you made the effort and forced yourself to test your own assumptions?