Over 15 years married here. Companionship, support, shared resources, the naughty stuff, the security of those shared promises to each other. The only downside is that you can’t just live for yourself any more, everything has to be negotiated, but that doesn’t mean you can’t negotiate areas of freedom.
Of course it’s not for everyone, some feel they can achieve all the above by mutual agreement without involving any certificates or vows. Maybe for some reason they prefer a situation either of them can just walk away from.
OPs’ problem is not marriage, it’s the USA’s completely fucked-up health system.
Over 15 years married here. Companionship, support, shared resources, the naughty stuff, the security of those shared promises to each other. The only downside is that you can’t just live for yourself any more, everything has to be negotiated, but that doesn’t mean you can’t negotiate areas of freedom.
Of course it’s not for everyone, some feel they can achieve all the above by mutual agreement without involving any certificates or vows. Maybe for some reason they prefer a situation either of them can just walk away from.
OPs’ problem is not marriage, it’s the USA’s completely fucked-up health system.
You can have all those things without marriage, though.
In reality it’s about government benefits. It makes being in a long-term relationship logistically easier.
But none of that has to do with marriage, that’s long term commitment.
I have all that without marriage. And you can walk away from a marriage any day of the week.