@j4k3 to Casual Conversation @lemm.eeEnglish • 6 days agoWhich is worse: a parent that clearly planned to have a child and never takes a personal interest in them, or one that clearly was an unplanned child and never takes a personal interest?message-square34arrow-up124arrow-down18file-text
arrow-up116arrow-down1message-squareWhich is worse: a parent that clearly planned to have a child and never takes a personal interest in them, or one that clearly was an unplanned child and never takes a personal interest?@j4k3 to Casual Conversation @lemm.eeEnglish • 6 days agomessage-square34file-text
minus-squareScrubbleslinkfedilinkEnglish5•5 days agoHey I was a child of one of each! You can’t compare them. There’s no scale of trauma, you can’t say this was a level 6 while that’s a level 8. They’re both going to deeply effect you over the years in different ways. Only way I dealt with it was by starting therapy.
minus-square@[email protected]linkfedilinkEnglish1•5 days agoMy parents weren’t great, but I think they did their best given their limited resources and the context of social norms at the time. I too go to therapy. It doesn’t help.
Hey I was a child of one of each!
You can’t compare them. There’s no scale of trauma, you can’t say this was a level 6 while that’s a level 8. They’re both going to deeply effect you over the years in different ways.
Only way I dealt with it was by starting therapy.
My parents weren’t great, but I think they did their best given their limited resources and the context of social norms at the time.
I too go to therapy. It doesn’t help.