• RBG
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    1332 months ago

    That weird American obsession over men’s height.

      • stebo
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        492 months ago

        In Europe too. Pretty sure it exists everywhere, just like other beauty standards.

        • @SkunkWorkz
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          182 months ago

          Yep I live in the Netherlands as a 5’6” guy. So many insecure short women here who only want men that are 2 meters all. My height is so much more of an issue with women who are shorter than me than women who are my same height or slightly taller.

          • stebo
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            I mean, if you’re not over 6’, are you even from the Netherlands? /lh

            • @SkunkWorkz
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              72 months ago

              well my genes are from one of the former colonies. My short stature will tell you which colony that is.

              • stebo
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                42 months ago

                Sorry I’m not that educated on the Dutch colonies. I only know about Suriname.

        • @[email protected]
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          I’ve literally never heard of a woman talking about “I don’t date men under X height” in my entire life. Then again I’d never even talk with a woman like that in the first place.

          I’ve certainly noticed the trend of smaller girls always gravitating towards taller men, but nothing so silly as “I don’t date small men”. As a small guy myself, I actually dated a few tall girls without issue, and happily married to a lady two inches taller than me.

          As I always say : my height isn’t the dimension you’re gonna care about, once we are lying down.

          • @[email protected]
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            222 months ago

            I’m 5’3 and have dated taller girls but I’ve seen them get shit from their friends for being with a short guy. They’d say it right in front of me too. Some people really are assholes about it.

          • babybus
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            112 months ago

            This probably comes from Tinder, where people explicitly state their preferences. I also don’t know anyone in real life who talks about that. These are two very different environments. But keep in mind that romantic and sexual interests are not always conscious choices. People might not even be aware of them, yet your height can still affect their desire to be with you (among many other things).

            • @Maalus
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              72 months ago

              Preferences are bullcrap most of the time anyways. Only truly shallow people go completely off of looks and are looking for a 100% match to them. Had seen plenty of bios saying stuff like “I’m crazy about tall men with beards”. Sent a message saying “how bout short men with beards?” And the response was “aye, I can do that” directly referencing lotr lol

            • @[email protected]
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              32 months ago

              Never thought about it this way, since I’ve never used dating apps. That makes sense, though. Thanks for the insight.

              And I agree about unconscious choices; that’s why I mentioned small girls with huge guys. The stereotype is so common, yet rarely, when I asked, were the girls even aware of it. My money has always been on daddy issues for this particular one.

            • @captainlezbian
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              22 months ago

              Also tinder tends towards pickiness partly as a way of thinning the herd. It’s very easy for dating apps to take nice to haves and push them into requirements. Things you may demand there might be a lot less important with someone you were chatting with at a social event and felt a spark with.

          • stebo
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            92 months ago

            they may not say it out loud, but I think there’s quite a few women that prefer taller men

            besides, there’s nothing wrong with having such preferences, as long as you don’t denigrate the people who don’t fit your preferences

          • Estebiu
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            32 months ago

            As I always say : my height isn’t the dimension you’re gonna care about, once we are lying down.

            Im dying

            • Cruxifux
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              12 months ago

              Nah, you can control your weight more than you can control your height or tiddy size

              • stebo
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                02 months ago

                no it’s not a universal beauty standard

      • @Agent641
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        22 months ago

        We only use metric to seem taller. 186cm (and counting)

    • @orangeboats
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      242 months ago

      Unfortunately not just America. Heightism is also prevalent in a big part of Asia.

      This is most likely one of the quirks brought to you by Survival of the Fittest rule. Thanks, evolution.

      • @Kalladblog
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        362 months ago

        Don’t blame evolution for some peoples’ short sightedness

        • @orangeboats
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          52 months ago

          Well, tallness surely would be a preferable criteria back then! To a certain extent, it is a proxy parameter for fitness.

          I just think we can actually use evolution to explain a lot of things that we do, it doesn’t mean we should do it.

            • @orangeboats
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              22 months ago

              In the past, fitness (and hence its proxy parameters like height and other beauty standards) correlated to the survivability of your bloodline. So it makes sense that people are programmed, to a certain degree, to admire things like tallness.

              Nowadays because of technology the correlation no longer exists, or at the very least it is much diminished. But the programming is still there right in our DNA, so as a people we should artificially override this natural instinct because it no longer serves a purpose.

              • @[email protected]
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                12 months ago

                Sexual selection is still a thing, and not to push eugenics or anything, but shouldn’t people be somewhat discerning regarding the genetic health of their partner? I mean, we’re still a ways out from using CRISPR to fix inheritable weaknesses, but until then, keep slamming shorties but save your baby-making for a tall Amazonian, right?