There’s a balance in all things. Same with non-romantic relationships - you need friends you can be open with, but people who need constant emotional labor are just draining, in terms of mood, energy, and affection for that individual.

… but yes, that is a recurring problem with dating standards. There remains a preference for the ‘easy’ parts of toxic masculinity, regardless of the fact that those ‘easy’ parts are incompatible with the other desired characteristics of their ideal boyfriend.