why am i in every quadrant??
If you don’t treat women like shit, you’ll only be in most of the quadrants. Easy fix if there’s a problem there. Then you can just be damaged like the rest of us!
- signed, sensitive guy who would need immense emotional labor from an SO
So she wants a guy who’s not emotionally distant, but also doesn’t bother her with his feelings.
There’s a balance in all things. Same with non-romantic relationships - you need friends you can be open with, but people who need constant emotional labor are just draining, in terms of mood, energy, and affection for that individual.
… but yes, that is a recurring problem with dating standards. There remains a preference for the ‘easy’ parts of toxic masculinity, regardless of the fact that those ‘easy’ parts are incompatible with the other desired characteristics of their ideal boyfriend.
The most toxic part about all this is the demand for an ideal boyfriend in the first place.
No human is perfect.
