• @De_Narm
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    351 month ago

    Nah, it’s just shitty memory. I have had quite the happy childhood, actually.

    I don’t find myself reminiscing a lot and in the rare cases I do, there are quite some gaps. Even in more recent times. If I really try to dig, maybe it comes back, but I assume it’s “use it or lose it”.

    • @Damage@feddit.it
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      131 month ago

      Yeah, I have shitty memory too… Sometimes my friends talk about something we did 15-20 years ago and half the time it unlocks a memory, the other half I can’t recall at all

      • @Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de
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        11 month ago

        i don’t fucking remember most of yesterday, my brain is just extremely judicious about what it retains and catalogues.
        on the other hand i can regale you about physics and how railways work and stuff like that…

      • @SchmidtGenetics
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        -91 month ago

        Yeah, that’s it normal, hence why they remember and you don’t dude… you don’t think that’s not strange? That multiple friends recall events easily and you don’t…?

        • Laurel Raven
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          61 month ago

          Different people remember different things? It’s really not that complicated. What one brain decides is worth holding onto might not be worth it to another.

          Hell, even what we do remember is half hallucinated to fill in the gaps (probably not the right word for it, but you get the idea)

    • @SchmidtGenetics
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      -211 month ago

      That still ain’t normal dude. You’re supposed to be able to recall memories from any point of your life…

      • Zagorath
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        171 month ago

        You actually can’t. Human memory is really quite terrible. Most of your older memories are likely distorted by other people telling you about them, or even just the natural decay that occurs whenever you recall a memory.

        • @SchmidtGenetics
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          That is just factually incorrect And what people lie to themselves to make them feel better. Humans are great at recollection, why would you claim otherwise…?

          The age 0-3 is the only time you should have zero recollection, anything else is something you should talk to neurologist or psychologist about, but sure lie to make yourself feel better I guess…?

          • @jak@sopuli.xyz
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            151 month ago

            There’s a common misconception that trauma is the main cause of childhood amnesia. A logical assumption but is completely unfounded.

            Fun quote from that article, you absolute scholar

            • @SchmidtGenetics
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              I did say usually, I didn’t say only cause you muppet.

              And did you actually read the article?

              But if there are significant memory gaps that may be related to childhood trauma—it may be time to seek support. A therapist is a great place to start. If you sense there’s a medical issue causing your memory loss, give your doctor a call.

              Trauma is a cause, but it’s unfounded for the main cause. Which I never stated, maybe read the entire article and don’t take a specific quote out of context…?

              • @Blue_Morpho
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                81 month ago

                Unfounded means it isn’t usually. It means there is no correlation. It’s not usually.

                • @SchmidtGenetics
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                  There’s a sentence before that with a major detail you are ignoring.

                  Unfounded for the main cause, it’s still a cause of the amnesia.

                  See this quote further down…. You did actually read the article… yeah…? You aren’t just taking a quote of context and using that for the entire basis of your asinine argument… are you…?

                  But if there are significant memory gaps that may be related to childhood trauma—it may be time to seek support. A therapist is a great place to start. If you sense there’s a medical issue causing your memory loss, give your doctor a call.

                  So yes, it is absolutely a cause as that SHOULD prove without a doubt….

                  • @Blue_Morpho
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                    81 month ago

                    Unfounded for the main cause

                    Which means not usually.

                    That it could be caused doesn’t mean it is usually caused.

          • Zagorath
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            101 month ago

            The unreliability of memory has been known pretty well for a long time. It’s why eye witness testimony in court should not be given nearly as much weight as the average person gives it.

            • @SchmidtGenetics
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              Right, but remembering nothing isn’t normal either… especially at the young age of 30, you seem to be ignoring major details here.

              Just because some events are distorted doesn’t mean all should be. This seems to be the key part of the conversation that you’ve missed. I wasn’t absolute in any of my statements, yet you have been.

              Which is factually incorrect, you should be able to recall specific events at all part of your life, your link doesn’t say otherwise now does it…?

              The first sentence of your link says the opposite of everything you have claimed…

              Despite the vivid and convincing detail with which people can recollect emotional experiences from their past, emotional memory is malleable.

              Says its malleable, where does it say it gets erased…? You aren’t conflating these two vastly different things are you…?

              • Zagorath
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                01 month ago

                But I didn’t say you don’t remember anything. I just pointed out that anything you do think you remember…is very likely wrong. It might be correct, but you can’t know that.

      • @De_Narm
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        So, what’s your point? Other people might have a lot more boring childhood anecdotes to tell, but it’s not like I’m suffering in any kind. I still remember people or useful skills - the stuff I do use.

        As an added benefit of growing up quite poor, I probably just had less unique experiences I actually could recall. Like, I’ve been on three travel vacations overall. Kinda like those COVID years blurred together for most people.