Um. So. I’ve been wearing a lot of tight sweaters recently and starting to show a bit too much nipple, so I bought some bras. Why just now? I guess I felt I didn’t really “deserve” one, or I’d be “dressing up”, or something, and wanted to wait for a good reason. Or two :3
Anyway, it’s super comfortable, the padding really helps with sensitivity, and I looove what it does for my silhouette. BUT. I’ve been dressing somewhat androgynous up till now to give my hair / face time to catch up, and to me at least this is a big step into “this person is obviously dressing fem (wearing a bra)” territory. Which is kind of scary.
I’m not really sure what I’m asking here, sorry. I like presenting fem; I want to be perceived as fem; but I guess I’m kind of scared I look like a man in drag? Is anybody actually going to notice?
I’m not saying not to use bras, but if nips are the concern, another option is pasties which just go over the nipples. I think that’s what they’re called. You also might find them more comfortable if you don’t need the support a bra provides. Or you might just find them weird. Worth a look, anyway.
I can’t help but imagine 1920s cabaret shows when I think of pasties, but that’s an interesting idea. Thanks!