How have you successfully gotten over a breakup? I did not end the relationship and it was the most significant of my life. I feel confused and trying to understand why. I’m not sleeping well and my anxiety has decided to resurface. I’m ruminating. I don’t have many people to go to about this. Please don’t say I will find someone else, because I can’t go there right now. And I know it won’t happen anyway.
The best thing about breaking up with someone is that you’ll get to fall in love again.
Obviously don’t rush that or seek it out, but it will happen at some point.
I always think that breaking up from a decently long relationship is like losing a part of yourself - take your time and make yourself whole before trying to fill that void with the “easy fix” of starting a relationship with someone else.
How do you do that? It just takes time. Do things you love doing. Spend time with people who bring joy to your life. Embrace life! Say yes to new experiences. Be brave.
And then - probably when you least expect it - you’ll meet someone who makes you realise that breaking up was the best thing that could have happened to you.
Thanks, I think taking the time to make myself whole is spot on.