If it’s trauma, you’re a victim of a trauma and deserve compassion.
If it’s a disabilitating issue, it’s the disabilitating issue that you need compassion about
If it’s depression it’s depression to be compassionate about
These are the things that deserve compassion.
Just not having shit to do because of a season wouldn’t be in that category. I know of people who are happy to the point of satisfaction to not be doing anything with family for Christmas and perfectly happy to treat it as any other day. . And they don’t refer to themselves as unloveable or anything else as seen negative. I’ve even offered them a dinner and they are like ‘nup’ they already have food and just see it as any other night.
So obviously they aren’t ‘hard done by’ and they aren’t feeling unloved. In fact it might be insulting to assume they are somehow unloved cuz their mind certainly didn’t go there.
I still wish them a non Christmas but I wouldn’t insult them by feeling sorry for them like they are somehow broken because of it.
And they’d say the same thing: save the compassion for those who really need the compassion. Go help in a soup kitchen if you’re in the giving or empathetic mood. Those are the people who need to be promoted to matter.
Taking pity on someone just not visiting someone else just cuz of a capitalist holiday while they still have food on the table and a roof over their head and perfectly content would be disengenuous and a waste of that energy. Also projecting Christmas holiday and personal ideals over someone’s lifestyle and well being which is unfair to do to others. Blind empathy isn’t empathy.
If it’s trauma, you’re a victim of a trauma and deserve compassion.
If it’s a disabilitating issue, it’s the disabilitating issue that you need compassion about
If it’s depression it’s depression to be compassionate about
These are the things that deserve compassion.
Just not having shit to do because of a season wouldn’t be in that category. I know of people who are happy to the point of satisfaction to not be doing anything with family for Christmas and perfectly happy to treat it as any other day. . And they don’t refer to themselves as unloveable or anything else as seen negative. I’ve even offered them a dinner and they are like ‘nup’ they already have food and just see it as any other night. So obviously they aren’t ‘hard done by’ and they aren’t feeling unloved. In fact it might be insulting to assume they are somehow unloved cuz their mind certainly didn’t go there.
I still wish them a non Christmas but I wouldn’t insult them by feeling sorry for them like they are somehow broken because of it.
And they’d say the same thing: save the compassion for those who really need the compassion. Go help in a soup kitchen if you’re in the giving or empathetic mood. Those are the people who need to be promoted to matter.
Taking pity on someone just not visiting someone else just cuz of a capitalist holiday while they still have food on the table and a roof over their head and perfectly content would be disengenuous and a waste of that energy. Also projecting Christmas holiday and personal ideals over someone’s lifestyle and well being which is unfair to do to others. Blind empathy isn’t empathy.