in a healthy kink relationship, the submissive is the one in control: what they say goes; the dom merely makes suggestions in a manner that seems to outsiders as if the sub doesn’t have the control (and indeed the headspace of both participants leans toward that too). if the sub says no, it does not happen
this isn’t a hierarchy; this is a complex relationship that can’t be defined as narrowly
in a healthy kink relationship, the submissive is the one in control: what they say goes; the dom merely makes suggestions in a manner that seems to outsiders as if the sub doesn’t have the control (and indeed the headspace of both participants leans toward that too). if the sub says no, it does not happen
this isn’t a hierarchy; this is a complex relationship that can’t be defined as narrowly
but it’s not hot when you describe it in the way that it is :( /j
idk it made it more hot for me! when you know the dynamic you can fuck with it and then things get REAL fun