At first I thought I could “take it or leave it” with kids. Then I married someone who was a firm “No,” but strung me along when I asked if we could adopt. Divorced now, and when I think about the idea of finding a woman to raise a family with… I’m inundated with fear and anxiety. This world is so fucked that I cry in my dreams at the thought of it. What will the world look like in my hypothetical child’s lifetime?

The supposed last bastion of freedom and democracy has fully descended into fascist oligarchy. We were supposed to stop climate change before we hit 1.5 degrees of warming, we hit that last year. Now they’re talking about what’s going to happen when we hit 3 degrees of warming. So every natural disaster is going to be far worse, and far more frequent. The fire in LA is still burning. A fire swallowed up so much, the next one may take the entire city. Scientists have been dreading the eruption of a super volcano for a while now, saying that it could cause a global ice age, gee I wonder if climate change is making that more or less likely?? (hint: it’s more.) Meanwhile NATO and the combination of russia/china/north korea/iran are preparing for the last war this world may ever see.

Not to mention that having a kid is like pooping out a ticket for half a million in debt. I already think about killing myself so often, could I really bear the thought of shackling myself to this soul sucking job for the rest of my life? Goodbye following my dreams, hello more debt.

So now I can’t even bring myself to date, because despite getting divorced over it (not really, but it was a part of it), I still can’t truly answer the question “Do I want kids?” Approaching 40 and time is running out. Gotta make up my mind, but in the meantime everything is getting worse.

I heard once that single life is like being the center of your life’s portrait, and once you have kids, you instead become the frame. But I already feel like I’ve lived my whole life within the frame, and want to try being the center of my own portrait for once.