I’m done holding out hope for the United States. My president is trying to erase my existence, I’m gender non-binary, and he is trying to force me back into the office, I’m a government employee. There are other reasons too but this has been the breaking point.
I don’t even know the first thing about leaving the country other than knowing that I need a job in that country. I don’t really have money and I don’t plan to run away from my debts either. I don’t feel like I’m safe here. I have a wife and child too.
The fact that you’re not aware how frequently gendered language is used may not be your fault but it is a result of your privilege.
I’ll call you by your name when I’m talking to you or if you’re part of the conversation. 🤷
You probably mean well but you absolutely cannot tell me you never ever use pronouns. Language doesn’t work like that.
And we haven’t even started talking about the Bathroom Issue.
Are you confusing trans with non-binary here?
You do know what non-binary means? Not part of the binary gender spectrum. Neither male nor female. Which bathroom should a person use that is neither male nor female? The male or the female one? What should they say on forms that ask you if you’re male or female? Should they be fine with being called “he” or “she” if neither apply to them?
Bathrooms are related to your anatomy, so use the relevant one? 🤷
It is becoming difficult to keep assuming you’re not being intentionally obtuse.
Imagine a big burly person with a big beard who is read by most people as “man” entering a bathroom labelled “women” - because that’s the “relevant” one for their genitals. Do you really think there wouldn’t be SOME sort of reaction?
If a person has a big beard, they’re not going to have a vagina, are they?
Alright, have a nice day.
“where did Jack leave the forklift”
“HE left it in the warehouse”
No one does the following
“Where did JACK leave the forklift?”
“Jack left the forklift in the warehouse”
The problem is if you go by “she”, the first phrasing is hurtful. But it isn’t common to pop back the person’s name in a reply sentence.
Even more clear is:
“Where did they leave the forklift”
“He left it in the warehouse”
Mind, it may well not be intentional, but a non binary person is made uncomfortable by being misgendered, so in a welcoming and safe workspace they’d want to ask “hey so I actually use she/her, can you please use those in regards to me?”
But in an unsafe or unwelcoming workspace they would either be shamed/retaliated against for that, or (in the case of government offices now) forced to not ask in the first place.