cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/26365993
I’m the quiet, introverted one and I may be on the spectrum. I like to do my job and go home. I hate drama and drama queens and ignore people when they start gossiping. Many extroverts find that offensive and talk behind my back like teenagers do. This stupid drama is the only reason why I quit my job after finding a new one.
I agreed to stay 4 weeks with the company because some coworkers are actually grown ups, it is a breeze to work with them and I can use their experience to be a better professional.
Back to the immature ones: Past me would ignore their sarcastic and passive aggressive comments, which took a toll on me but now I have nothing to lose and I couldn’t care less what they think of me, meaning I started to answer back using their same tone and so sarcastically and passive aggressively as them: they yell at me accusing of doing something on purpose, I politely tell them to calm down and to seek help.
Most of my coworkers are women. Since I started answering back and being a jerk, they toned their b%tchiness way down, it is more pleasant to work here now.
I don’t understand why my coworkers treat me with some respect now that I’m being a jerk and I hate I have to be a jerk to be treated with a modicum of respect. I don’t know if I’m wrong but I think they have an idea of what a man is supposed to be and now that I fit their definition of a man, they leave me alone because they see in me something familiar to them.
I find it sad I have to be an ass to be treated with respect and I hope to find a workplace where I can be myself and work with no drama.
Is this something that’s going to happen no matter where I work?
Unless OP is in a management position, where politics and such BS may as well be in the PD, what on earth is the need to judge your co-workers’ personalities?
I’ve dealt with a lot of different people at work, vastly different people. But as long as we can get the work done, let it be introverted or antisocial, it just doesn’t matter? Hell, even if it gets in the way of my job, there are professional ways to move forward. I’m here to get shit done and collect my paychecks, not to have ‘emotional experiences’ every day with everyone. There are some 4000 people in my company, I can’t socialise with everyone, I don’t want to socialise with everyone, and I certainly don’t care if someone refuses to socialise. 99% of them are not too different from random online strangers to me. Communications usually just go ‘Can we do this?’ ‘Sure.’ Then fast forward 3 months they may not even still work here. I socialise with a handful of people I like, and I’ve made some good friends. Others I absolutely don’t care. I expect communications to be productive, not ‘emotional’. I’m just an IC, not the company’s counsellor.