I just entered a text message chat from the group of students of my course, and after talking a there over some days with a sophomore (most of the chat was just me interacting) someone said “wow, the freshmen are really getting acquainted, writing shit and what else”. That was so out pocket, closed the app and now I am ranting here, is this still kind of behavior normal in your uni/country? Its so bizarre, the guy was just sophomore. EDIT: thanks everyone for the replies, I appreciate them, I think there’s some grow on my part to be done, because this seems to be way more common than I think. Welp, kinda of a bummer anyway.
Are you trying to have non school related convos? People are nice if you do that but they generally dont want to do that, im ngl ive called some ppl out for that, like do not blow up our phones and make us uncomfortable, if you think someone enjoys talking to you, text them seperately. (this could not pertain to you, more like ppl asking where the parties are at and what everyones doing, we’re not in a group out of choice we are not about to share where we live)
This, don’t interact with your classmates or co-workers unless it’s strictly necessary and business-related is what I’ve learned. Everybody has their cliques and communities outside of these spaces. It’s as unacceptable as approaching people on the street and could constitute harassment. As a neurodivergent person this boggles my mind because the neurotypicals always talk about community and whatnot and socializing and approaching people but all of this is just one of their bizarre contradictions, they don’t actually want to connect with other random human beings, they only want to talk about how they can’t.
I mean it was a group chat not focused on studies and other people were already sending memes and workout tips there, so I don’t really know what I did wrong. Like, it just bothered me, and I am a bit sad that even something so small could bother me,
You didn’t do anything wrong, especially if it was a social group chat intentionally created for that. I think the idea of “never talk to your colleagues” is a bit wild tbh. There’s a time and a place, certainly, but unless the chat was created strictly for talking about schoolwork, you did nothing wrong. In many courses I’ve taken, professors will create these social spaces (especially in virtual environments) specifically for people to network and get to know each other. Don’t overdo it, but unless you were literally spamming unrelated crap, I don’t see any issue with what you did.
Don’t feel bad that it bothered you either. It wasn’t a very kind or necessary comment, and if the person was bothered by the notifications they could’ve just turned them off, they didn’t have to try to embarrass you. But as others have said, you’ll hopefully grow out of giving a shit when people are jerks.
I see thanks! I’ll focus on the last part. ❤️
It was a general chat where some people were already sending memes and so on, theres a separate group chat dedicated to studies, and its pretty dead most of the time, after some hours since I stopped talking there and no one is writing anything, so I don’t really get it why exactly I receive that, he was probably being pranky or something