A child dying is going to make them double down, honestly. At this point they will REALLY refuse to acknowledge that the kids death was 100% their fault since taking accountability is not something these people are willing to do
I almost wonder if it’s the same mechanism as the sunk cost fallacy, where a losing situation is irrationally maintained because of how unpleasant we find loss.
Edit to add: def no disagreement about refusing accountability though, that’s such a pattern with that kind of personality. And not to give them TOO much grace but frankly I’m not sure I myself would act defensibly or even sanely right after losing a child.
I think sunk cost fallacy and religious world views have a lot in common. Both are an investment in time, money, or attention—that could be felt as a total waste if the project or belief is abandoned. With religion it’s often worse because you also lose your community and possibly friends and family depending on how fundamental they are.
A child dying is going to make them double down, honestly. At this point they will REALLY refuse to acknowledge that the kids death was 100% their fault since taking accountability is not something these people are willing to do
I almost wonder if it’s the same mechanism as the sunk cost fallacy, where a losing situation is irrationally maintained because of how unpleasant we find loss.
Edit to add: def no disagreement about refusing accountability though, that’s such a pattern with that kind of personality. And not to give them TOO much grace but frankly I’m not sure I myself would act defensibly or even sanely right after losing a child.
I think sunk cost fallacy and religious world views have a lot in common. Both are an investment in time, money, or attention—that could be felt as a total waste if the project or belief is abandoned. With religion it’s often worse because you also lose your community and possibly friends and family depending on how fundamental they are.