Edit - This is a post to the meta group of Blåhaj Lemmy. It is not intended for the entire lemmyverse. If you are not on Blåhaj Lemmy and plan on dropping in to offer your opinion on how we are doing things in a way you don’t agree with, your post will be removed.
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A user on our instance reported a post on lemmynsfw as CSAM. Upon seeing the post, I looked at the community it was part of, and immediately purged all traces of that community from our instance.
I approached the admins of lemmynsfw and they assured me that the models with content in the community were all verified as being over 18. The fact that the community is explicitly focused on making the models appear as if they’re not 18 was fine with them. The fact that both myself and one a member of this instance assumed it was CSAM, was fine with them. I was in fact told that I was body shaming.
I’m sorry for the lack of warning, but a community skirting the line trying to look like CSAM isn’t a line I’m willing to walk. I have defederated lemmynsfw and won’t be reinstating it whilst that community is active.
Yeah, this seems very well thought through. For what it’s worth, I’m UK based so will be talking from that perspective. I’m in agreement that sex education is absolutely dire – I can’t see any objection to a dispassionate education in both the cultural and scientific aspects of sex. I don’t even see it as an ‘oh well, if we have to’, since sex forms such an integral part of our cultural identities (of course, including when people fall outside the societal sexual norms).
More broadly on society’s difficulty with dealing with sex (and even the criminal aspects) I’ve read some interesting books on anti-carceral feminism recently that helped give me a different perspective on how I think about sexual crimes and its perpetrators beyond the simple instinctual judgements.
Thanks, I waffled a bit on actually posting because it’s such a controversial topic. I’d like to argue that clinicalizing sex has its own issues, but given how bad the world has been at just having useful sex ed at all, it’s at least a reasonable place to start. Rather than having everybody blindly figure out how to handle sex in their life, and then spend potentially the rest of your life patching up and altering that understanding, everyone would be better off if we just openly shared information and guided from there.
I hadn’t heard about carceral feminism until just now, though I find it somewhat funny that the person who coined the term was an anti-carceral feminist themselves. I can’t say I’m too familiar, other than the connection to arguments over legalizing sex work, where I’ve read studies elsewhere, but a quick read through the wiki page is enough to bring me on board with the anti-carceral agenda.