Nope. You still sound like someone telling other people who you think they should be in order to be considered gay, or bi, or whatever. Maybe, just focus on doing you, and let everyone else do the same? Theres no right or wrong way to be(as long as no one is getting hurt of course). If “the gays” wanna eat at Chick-fil-A, thats their business. It doesnt take away their gay card, or make them “straight people who have gay sex”.
A gay man, any gay man, owes you absolutely nothing. You can judge them for it, by all means. But you dont get to say they are less of a gay man because they dont conform to your standards. Thats the same way of thinking that said that gay men werent real men. Is that who you want to be? Is that really the company that you want to keep?
You can phrase that any way you want—a gay man owes you nothing, a black man owes you nothing, a bisexual biracial woman owes you nothing—and I’ll disagree. We are a social species, we live in societies, and we owe one another a lot.
Thats the same way of thinking that said that gay men werent real men.
“A ___ man, any ___ man, owes you absolutely nothing” is the mindset that allowed white men to stand idly by during the black civil rights movement, black men to let their sisters struggle on their own, straight men to let queer men suffer, on and on we go. It’s what lets Chris Rock and OJ Simpson punch down at other black men. It’s what lets McKinsey consultants and stock brokers and millionaires and billionaires keep doing work that harms their communities and others. So I’d ask you about the company you keep. But I don’t think the platitudes are helping us here. Let’s think smaller. Small like “is my maxim of choice helping here or am I hurting people by thinking and acting this way in this specific scenario?”
lol Fucking gate keeper, demanding gay people act they way he demands, or they arent real gay people. Just admit youre a bigot, and own it like all the other bigots.
Nope. You still sound like someone telling other people who you think they should be in order to be considered gay, or bi, or whatever. Maybe, just focus on doing you, and let everyone else do the same? Theres no right or wrong way to be(as long as no one is getting hurt of course). If “the gays” wanna eat at Chick-fil-A, thats their business. It doesnt take away their gay card, or make them “straight people who have gay sex”.
Supporting a business that hurts your peers is value neutral in your mind?
A gay man, any gay man, owes you absolutely nothing. You can judge them for it, by all means. But you dont get to say they are less of a gay man because they dont conform to your standards. Thats the same way of thinking that said that gay men werent real men. Is that who you want to be? Is that really the company that you want to keep?
You can phrase that any way you want—a gay man owes you nothing, a black man owes you nothing, a bisexual biracial woman owes you nothing—and I’ll disagree. We are a social species, we live in societies, and we owe one another a lot.
“A ___ man, any ___ man, owes you absolutely nothing” is the mindset that allowed white men to stand idly by during the black civil rights movement, black men to let their sisters struggle on their own, straight men to let queer men suffer, on and on we go. It’s what lets Chris Rock and OJ Simpson punch down at other black men. It’s what lets McKinsey consultants and stock brokers and millionaires and billionaires keep doing work that harms their communities and others. So I’d ask you about the company you keep. But I don’t think the platitudes are helping us here. Let’s think smaller. Small like “is my maxim of choice helping here or am I hurting people by thinking and acting this way in this specific scenario?”
lol Fucking gate keeper, demanding gay people act they way he demands, or they arent real gay people. Just admit youre a bigot, and own it like all the other bigots.
Why, do I owe you something?
Never said you did. But nice try, bigot.