For me, it was the year I turned 22. At that point I was older than both parents when they had me. I realized how incompetent i was, and how little life I had lived, completely incapable of raising a human. My parents sacrificed a shit load just for me to be alive, and did their best in the time they were born into, and all the external forces at work on a young mind, and the choices at hand. I still don’t have kids lol.
re: 22 - totally agree, we waited another decade and I think were just barely ready even then. I have peers that had kids at 18 and they’re graduating college, that blows my mind.
For me, it was the year I turned 22. At that point I was older than both parents when they had me. I realized how incompetent i was, and how little life I had lived, completely incapable of raising a human. My parents sacrificed a shit load just for me to be alive, and did their best in the time they were born into, and all the external forces at work on a young mind, and the choices at hand. I still don’t have kids lol.
I don’t know how long ago that was for you, but I hope you don’t feel like that anymore.
FWIW 22 seems awful young to be having kids.
re: 22 - totally agree, we waited another decade and I think were just barely ready even then. I have peers that had kids at 18 and they’re graduating college, that blows my mind.
My ex and I were 22 when we had ours. There’s good and bad to it
If you have the economic capacity, I’d say go for it.