Let me reframe for a sec. Back when Digg imploded itself in 2010, basically all of their users migrated to reddit. With the influx of new users, reddit was constantly overloaded, there were frequent outages, and other problems that eventually lead to memes about reddit’s unreliability and eventually the introduction of reddit gold. Gold was introduced literally because users of reddit liked the platform and wanted to help contribute to it being better able to handle more traffic. But from the Digg migration to the current period of high uptime took literal years. Does that mean reddit “wasn’t ready to be migrated to”? It sounds like you would say yes, because to you “ready” just means “can handle the traffic”. Whereas to me and other people at the time it meant the feature set, content, communities etc all came together to keep people on reddit despite the downtime. The same is now true for Lemmy for many of us.

“It’s your fault for using the popular instance!”

Think about that for a second would you?

This is why I said it feels like you’re not understanding the fediverse. An instance being popular doesn’t make it better than other instances. You’ll get the same content from being on any number of other less popular instances. That’s the whole point of federation. So yes, it is, in fact, your fault for using the popular instance. In the time it took to reply to me one time you could have made accounts in 3 other instances and solved the problem you keep complaining about.