• scarabic
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    21 hours ago

    Well, it is somewhat obnoxious to show up and say “hey! I’m here and I don’t know what I’m talking about!”

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      20 hours ago

      I would accept obnoxious. I don’t think it is obnoxious to add a comment to a forum, but I understand that viewpoint. I just think it’s a far way from toxic.

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        20 hours ago

        Let’s understand the word “toxic” though. We use the word “toxic” when a relationship or subject has become so radioactive that anything going into it comes out bad, even if innocently intended. Hating on Tilly is pretty toxic now, following an overwhelming amount of pointless hate online. You didn’t create that entire cloud of toxicity with one comment. No one could. But you walked into it. If you just want to innocently express your distaste for this character, you should probably be mad at all the people who made that impossible by flooding the dialogue with mean, stupid hate. Because at this point, making an unqualified swipe at her has gone toxic. If you have something meaningful and critical to say, say it. If you just want to make a jab, yeah, I’m afraid that is toxic now. You can claim you didn’t know, etc but you gotta read the room as it were. Or the room will spell itself out for you, as happened here.

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          10 hours ago

          Nah, I can be mad at the toxic people and the people over reacting. Both are too extreme reactions to each other.