• FauxPseudo
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    13 days ago

    My girlfriend asked what I wanted in a relationship. " I want all the standard stuff of mutual support and what not but I think what I really need is someone that has experience as a personal assistant and a special ed teacher."

    She happened to have experience in both of those fields. But I had to break up with her. She was desperately trying to be everything I wanted and that is one thing I can’t stand.

    Seven years later we got married. She said that breaking up with her was the best thing I could have ever done.

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      13 days ago

      But I had to break up with her.

      Seven years later we got married

      You’re not very good in breaking up, are you?

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        13 days ago

        If breaking up was the solution and it created long term happiness then I’m going to have to say that I’m an expert at breaking up based on this one case.

        But then again there were the other cases. Is a 50% mortality rate good or bad?

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          12 days ago

          I want clarification… Did you fail to break up and just stay together forever… Or did you split she grew personally and you got back together? Did you grow it all?

          Why am I so invested in your story?

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            We split. She came back a different person, herself. I was in the midst of growing in different ways. Years earlier I had taken a year off work to get basic human interaction skills. At this point that was working through its final stages of changing me at my core. I went from introvert to extrovert. My previous girlfriend said that I went from “trying to avoid starting a cult to trying to avoid starting a religion.”

            I guess my need for my girlfriend to be an independent self realized person and my complete disdain of people trying to make me a cult leader are directly related to each other.