Please recommend a better place to post if this is inappropriate for the community. Sorta long, and personal
They’ve been clean for a little over a year. They went out with friends and one of the friends gave my partner a bottle of the thing that causes behavior problems. It makes them the worst type of drunk. They called me mostly sober and I got to hear them go from coherent to passing out over the course of a couple hours and many phone calls and being hung up on many times
I’m not sure exactly what I’m looking for. There was nothing I could do other than try to keep them on the phone and engaged but it all spiralled. Swinging from ok to hysterical to angry and back. The angry part is why I can’t go get them, along with them getting to the point of absolute unreasonableness and just babbling nonsense. At points they can be combative and my showing up in person would have made everything worse
They are at a safe space where they can sleep it off. At this point I’m not worried they’ll come back home angry, but I’m still vigilant for when they get back
I do not blame them because alcoholism and addiction are a lifelong disease, but I’m just not sure how to approach the next time I see them, which is presumably and hopefully in the morning
They have a therapist which they should probably get in touch with. I’m looking for a little direction. Maybe someone’s dealt with addiction and relapse could chime in. I know I can’t approach it with anger even though inside I’m feeling so angry and betrayed. They quit because the last time they drank, they put their hands on me
-tpyo
Edit: they’re home. It’s fine, they are ok though there’s still a lot to talk about. Thank you for the concern and responses 💚, truly


I’m sorry you had to go through that. Glad it seems everything is okay-ish. Sending warm thoughts!
I truly appreciate it. We’ve talked a bit and I’m no longer feeling concerned. Thoughts received!