• FireRetardant
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    This person is actively saying they date with other motives in the workplaces, not just that they don’t mind dating co-workers.

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      People date people with all sorts of motives.

      People have been marrying people for money, status, or influence since the dawn of time.

      What motives do you define as appropriate and what gives you the right to define them for others?

      If someone wants to date their superiors then honestly, its the superior who’s most likely to be acting unethically.

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        They literally say in the post their main motive for dating in the workplace is career advancement and door opening. Thats not dating anymore thats basically a job. If you want to treat your love life as a carreer knock your socks off but the vast majority of people have more personal motives for dating and love making than climbing the corporate ladder.

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          Sorry where does it literally say its their main motive?

          • agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works
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            So yes I date at work.

            Not because I’m looking for love. Because, in my experience, relationships open doors faster than resumes, certifications, or late nights ever have.

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              […] I date at work […] Because […] relationships open doors

              That explains why this person dates at work, it doesn’t say their main motive for dating at work is to climb the corporate ladder.

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                  “I poo at work because I get paid for it”.

                  That doesn’t mean my primary motivation for pooing is getting paid.

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                    Except that interpretation falls apart with the prefatory “not because” clause.

                    “I ___, not because ___. Because ___” is an explicit clarification of intention or motivation. “I poo at work, not because I have poo inside me that needs to be expelled. Because it’s a way to get paid for not actually doing work” is a more accurate analogy.

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              I’m not trolling.

              I’m genuinely surprised that the fediverse is so sexually constrained.

              As I’ve said elsewhere in this thread. People date people for all sorts of devious, manipulative reasons, and the majority of those reasons are born of self interest. When selecting a desirable partner, we’re hard wired to desire partners who can provide social stability.