I’ve been with this company for six years and been consistently sidelined and denied any opportunity for growth despite being highly qualified.
I’ve been with this company for six years and been consistently sidelined and denied any opportunity for growth despite being highly qualified.
“You’re so smart” sounds a bit condescending in a workplace and commenting on someones looks may not be workplace appropriate either.
True, but this is a sarcastic exaggeration. The idea is to just compliment people constantly and never say anything that may even tangentiallly been seen as criticism in any way. Despite the official purpose of work as a place to get things done the best way possible, the unofficial purpose–the thing that mostly gets rewarded–is ingratiating yourself to people.
Or maybe I’m just an asshole, which also starts with a.
Edit: I feel this: https://www.equanimitypsychologyservices.com/blog-3-1/why-im-an-autistic-asshole
Especially:
Being direct isn’t necessarily rude no. But you absolutely can be rude while being direct, depending on how you phrase things. And you can still be direct while considering your phrasing so you avoid being rude. Hiding rudeness behind “being direct” is just being a douche.
Would it be rude to tell you that I found your comment extremely unhelpful?
You are in an autistic sub talking to someone who has suffered greatly at work just because he assumes he is talking to professionals who want to do their job better and not butthurt babies who are looking for constant reassurance.
Example: when I mentioned HR’s use of third-party e-mails during their onboarding process during a company-wide (including our parent organization) IT training on phishing and security, they sent someone down from the main office JUST TO TALK TO ME.
You know what her message was?
Translation:
It is what you said and never embarass us in front of the company like that again. But we are too cowardly to admit that this is a pure power play on our part so we are going to blame you for being too direct.
All you’re doing is using shitty slimey evasive topic-changing tactics of those shitheels.
Which I do not find helpful.
I have found that if I tell people how smart they are they are more receptive to feedback.
I have always found people to be far more accepting when saying the ideas are good, rather then the person in general.
Its what some people need to hear to cooperate in workplace. Half of working is pleasing somebody else’s insecurities
I work in a very small department and we’re all pretty much there to help manage our boss’s insecurities and anxieties, which is always a moving target.