Is that a bad thing? Knowing if you’re gay or not in casual conversation is weird. It just means you guys are normal ass dudes who happen to have a different sexual preference, it isn’t like some crazy defining factor or your life.
I think media pushes this narrative that unless you’re covered in rainbow shit 24/7 and acting flamboyant you’re secretly ashamed or something, which is total bullshit.
My mom is 73 and just married a woman 3 months ago, after being married to my dad for 25 years and being single for like 15 years. She definitely isn’t ashamed because people don’t instantly know she’s gay, nor does she care. She owns a few pride things and that’s about it. Because she’s a normal woman who happens to have a different sexual preference. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being “normal” and gay.
It was more other people being surprised because they had the idea that everyone who was gay was flamboyant, not us thinking it was a bad thing ourselves or wishing we were different. We were both happy with ourselves, just amused about stereotypes persisting.
I agree, I’m glad that perception is less prevalent now though I did also have an ex manager that was homophobic in that exact way a couple of years ago.
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Is that a bad thing? Knowing if you’re gay or not in casual conversation is weird. It just means you guys are normal ass dudes who happen to have a different sexual preference, it isn’t like some crazy defining factor or your life.
I think media pushes this narrative that unless you’re covered in rainbow shit 24/7 and acting flamboyant you’re secretly ashamed or something, which is total bullshit.
My mom is 73 and just married a woman 3 months ago, after being married to my dad for 25 years and being single for like 15 years. She definitely isn’t ashamed because people don’t instantly know she’s gay, nor does she care. She owns a few pride things and that’s about it. Because she’s a normal woman who happens to have a different sexual preference. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being “normal” and gay.
It was more other people being surprised because they had the idea that everyone who was gay was flamboyant, not us thinking it was a bad thing ourselves or wishing we were different. We were both happy with ourselves, just amused about stereotypes persisting.
I agree, I’m glad that perception is less prevalent now though I did also have an ex manager that was homophobic in that exact way a couple of years ago.