I know I’m in the minority when I say this, but I think we either succeed or fail. Soft language makes it easier to not learn and can cause effects similar to learning without actually learning. Like “try” for example.

I recognize most people will disagree with me and often say don’t be harsh on yourself. I don’t think I’ll being harsh. I had a goal and I didn’t get there. Simple enough. Now what do I need you to to cover the difference?