Wearing a skirt implies consent. Clothes (or lack of them) are a form of communication.
For example, my well-endowed wife wears revealing clothes if she feels comfortable with the attention and if it is an appropriate time to do so. On the other hand, if she has a business meeting at the office (especially important during meetings with people from other cultures), she will never do so, because that way she would send an inappropriate message. In this way, she takes responsibility for her behavior.
I’m amazed it has to be said, but no, wearing a skirt does not imply consent for anyone to look up it. The fuck kind of rapist thinking is that?
Edit: ITT people with poor reading comprehension skills. “Rapist thinking” doesn’t mean “looking = raping,” it means “the way rapists think.” As in, rapists also think that the clothing someone wears “implies consent” for their actions.
If you’re using the same reasoning as a rapist to justify looking up a woman’s skirt, and you don’t see what’s wrong with that, I worry for the women around you. Be better.
While he may have gone too far. He isn’t wrong in a sense. Clothing IS the responsibility of the wearer and you are consenting to being seen in said clothing if you wear it.
You can’t blame anyone but yourself if someone sees something you actively chose to not cover.
This isn’t consent for people to go out of their way to leer or try to circumvent the coverings. Cause even a skirt is a clear attempt at covering things.
But if someone sees something on accident or thought normal interactions then yes it’s one hundred percent on the person wearing the cloths for choosing to wear them.
For example if a dude is wearing a banana hammock you cannot blame anyone for noticing his bulge. It is quite literally being put on display. Ogling said bulge will be inappropriate depending on how said ogling is done.
But it is the man’s choice.
A skirt is no different, if you actively choose to wear one in which your ass is clearly on display while in normal day-to-day activities. People are in fact going to see your ass. It’s just how things are. It’s a fact of reality.
If you wear a reasonable length skirt in which it covers it, then no one should see your ass because no one should be going out of their way. In an attempt to see it, it’s clearly being covered. And a skirt does not have to be very long to be of a reasonable length either.
Clothing ranges from the prudish and conservative all the way to these sutty and horny. So what you wear does matter. It is a choice.
Both parties can be at fault here. Someone who doesn’t want to be leered at wearing s***** clothing that puts everything on display. Getting angry that people can see things is just nonsense. Just as someone going out of their way to walk upstairs behind someone in a skirt for the purpose of staring up, it is also in the wrong.
That’s why you dress for the occasion. If you’re going clubbing dress s***** it’s part of the fun. If you’re going to the beach, you’re going to wear short shorts and a tiny little top. Part of the fun is showing off your body. It’s enjoyable.
If you don’t enjoy it, you have other options. Hell you have options that are still in the style of the more s***** options while also being more prudish preserve your modesty.
You don’t have to wear a micro bikini. You can wear a normal one for example. You don’t have to wear a banana hammock you can wear a Speedo.
Whatever you wear is what you wear. If skirt is short enough to flash person behind you on stairs, that’s on you.
Any physical contact without consent is invalid. The way you dress is not consent.
And if you go for upskirt photo, your target has full right to defend their dignity. By, for example, kicking you off the stairs. Again, consequences of your actions.
What happens if she puts on a skirt in the morning because she wants attention, but then at lunchtime an alt-right podcaster sexually assaults her, and then in the afternoon she’s still in the skirt even though she’s currently feeling traumatized and completely repulsed by any and all sexual attention?
I’ll take straw man for $500. Alex. I can see what you’re trying to do here and it just doesn’t work.
It would require us to agree that said person in a skirt be it man or woman does not have the autonomy to make their own choices on where they are or going.
At Rich point the entire question is moot. They’re literally being forced against their will to do something they don’t want to do. And that’s a whole different can of worms.
Cuz any reasonable person would have gone back home or somewhere safe to either change, hide or do something to remove themselves from that problem that they’re feeling vulnerable from if they have the option.
You cannot argue that someone is assaulted and traumatized more than likely will willingly choose to remain in the situation in which their trauma just occurred. Cuz no one will do that of their own free will.
In your ‘what if’ scenario the victim should be taken care of and away from trying to work or interact with the public in that manner.
Unless the victim doesn’t think it’s as bad as we do and they are fine with the attention afterwards. Either way that’s probably their choice. Stop taking away their choice.
What if she’s taking the train home so she can go watch The Good Place and cry and hug her husband? And what if I’m also taking the train, and I end up on the escalator behind her?
I would assume they would be fine with you following her on an escalator as long as you’re not being a creep. There are a bunch of different ways to act between staring at the floor and trying sexually assault someone.
You are mixing two things here. Staring is not assaulting. This thread here is about staring.
Regarding sexual (or other physical) assault: anyone can be physically assaulted regardless of their gender or age. Nothing justifies it, but wearing or behaving provocatively blurs the boundaries.
I won’t go deep into the details of human psycho-sexual intricacies, because this isn’t a place for this, and also, judging by the number of downvotes, I see that this topic might be too difficult for some individuals to comprehend.
I think you misunderstood Me. I’m talking about if I, a random stranger who doesn’t know anything about your wife’s story, happens to stare at her ass the afternoon after she was sexually assaulted by an alt-right podcaster. Cause unless she went home to get changed, she’s still gonna be in her sexy outfit. So she could be feeling horrible and not want any attention, but I wouldn’t know it. And I might stare at her butt, because you said it’s okay and I don’t know what happened earlier.
I don’t want to come off as agreeing with the other poster, but this argument is so awful that I can’t just ignore it.
What if the assaulter was tall? Am I supposed to slouch all day everyday? Am I literally not allowed to exist because there are horrible people in the world of varying height?
I’m gonna be honest with you, chief: I’m gay and I love boobies and butts. I stare all the time. I try to do it in a way that doesn’t cause discomfort, but if I’m behind a nice ass on the stairs, I’m gonna enjoy the view.
The only part of the above argument that I’m interested in debunking is the idea that clothes are consent. Since clothes can’t always be changed, clothes as a form of consent is difficult to revoke. And any consent that can’t be revoked isn’t legitimate.
Or maybe its not as clean cut you make it out to be. I respect your decision to not talk this out in this forum but ‘they stupid’ is a very $choose your adjective response.
Wearing a skirt implies consent. Clothes (or lack of them) are a form of communication. For example, my well-endowed wife wears revealing clothes if she feels comfortable with the attention and if it is an appropriate time to do so. On the other hand, if she has a business meeting at the office (especially important during meetings with people from other cultures), she will never do so, because that way she would send an inappropriate message. In this way, she takes responsibility for her behavior.
wow, rapist defense on my left wing activism app
I’m amazed it has to be said, but no, wearing a skirt does not imply consent for anyone to look up it. The fuck kind of rapist thinking is that?
Edit: ITT people with poor reading comprehension skills. “Rapist thinking” doesn’t mean “looking = raping,” it means “the way rapists think.” As in, rapists also think that the clothing someone wears “implies consent” for their actions.
If you’re using the same reasoning as a rapist to justify looking up a woman’s skirt, and you don’t see what’s wrong with that, I worry for the women around you. Be better.
While he may have gone too far. He isn’t wrong in a sense. Clothing IS the responsibility of the wearer and you are consenting to being seen in said clothing if you wear it.
You can’t blame anyone but yourself if someone sees something you actively chose to not cover.
This isn’t consent for people to go out of their way to leer or try to circumvent the coverings. Cause even a skirt is a clear attempt at covering things.
But if someone sees something on accident or thought normal interactions then yes it’s one hundred percent on the person wearing the cloths for choosing to wear them.
For example if a dude is wearing a banana hammock you cannot blame anyone for noticing his bulge. It is quite literally being put on display. Ogling said bulge will be inappropriate depending on how said ogling is done.
But it is the man’s choice.
A skirt is no different, if you actively choose to wear one in which your ass is clearly on display while in normal day-to-day activities. People are in fact going to see your ass. It’s just how things are. It’s a fact of reality.
If you wear a reasonable length skirt in which it covers it, then no one should see your ass because no one should be going out of their way. In an attempt to see it, it’s clearly being covered. And a skirt does not have to be very long to be of a reasonable length either.
Clothing ranges from the prudish and conservative all the way to these sutty and horny. So what you wear does matter. It is a choice.
Both parties can be at fault here. Someone who doesn’t want to be leered at wearing s***** clothing that puts everything on display. Getting angry that people can see things is just nonsense. Just as someone going out of their way to walk upstairs behind someone in a skirt for the purpose of staring up, it is also in the wrong.
That’s why you dress for the occasion. If you’re going clubbing dress s***** it’s part of the fun. If you’re going to the beach, you’re going to wear short shorts and a tiny little top. Part of the fun is showing off your body. It’s enjoyable.
If you don’t enjoy it, you have other options. Hell you have options that are still in the style of the more s***** options while also being more prudish preserve your modesty.
You don’t have to wear a micro bikini. You can wear a normal one for example. You don’t have to wear a banana hammock you can wear a Speedo.
Choices have consequences
That’s my take at least.
Exactly this.
Cute how you’re equating looking to raping.
seek psychiatric help
Clearly you don’t understand the difference between rape, which is a physical assault, and a stare. Eyes don’t rape.
Showing parts of your body implies consent to be looked at, but it is not an invitation to touch or take pictures.
What happens if she puts on a skirt in the morning because she wants attention, but then at lunchtime an alt-right podcaster sexually assaults her, and then in the afternoon she’s still in the skirt even though she’s currently feeling traumatized and completely repulsed by any and all sexual attention?
Many such cases!
I’ll take straw man for $500. Alex. I can see what you’re trying to do here and it just doesn’t work.
It would require us to agree that said person in a skirt be it man or woman does not have the autonomy to make their own choices on where they are or going.
At Rich point the entire question is moot. They’re literally being forced against their will to do something they don’t want to do. And that’s a whole different can of worms.
Cuz any reasonable person would have gone back home or somewhere safe to either change, hide or do something to remove themselves from that problem that they’re feeling vulnerable from if they have the option.
You cannot argue that someone is assaulted and traumatized more than likely will willingly choose to remain in the situation in which their trauma just occurred. Cuz no one will do that of their own free will.
In your ‘what if’ scenario the victim should be taken care of and away from trying to work or interact with the public in that manner.
Unless the victim doesn’t think it’s as bad as we do and they are fine with the attention afterwards. Either way that’s probably their choice. Stop taking away their choice.
What if she’s taking the train home so she can go watch The Good Place and cry and hug her husband? And what if I’m also taking the train, and I end up on the escalator behind her?
I would assume they would be fine with you following her on an escalator as long as you’re not being a creep. There are a bunch of different ways to act between staring at the floor and trying sexually assault someone.
You are mixing two things here. Staring is not assaulting. This thread here is about staring. Regarding sexual (or other physical) assault: anyone can be physically assaulted regardless of their gender or age. Nothing justifies it, but wearing or behaving provocatively blurs the boundaries. I won’t go deep into the details of human psycho-sexual intricacies, because this isn’t a place for this, and also, judging by the number of downvotes, I see that this topic might be too difficult for some individuals to comprehend.
I think you misunderstood Me. I’m talking about if I, a random stranger who doesn’t know anything about your wife’s story, happens to stare at her ass the afternoon after she was sexually assaulted by an alt-right podcaster. Cause unless she went home to get changed, she’s still gonna be in her sexy outfit. So she could be feeling horrible and not want any attention, but I wouldn’t know it. And I might stare at her butt, because you said it’s okay and I don’t know what happened earlier.
I don’t want to come off as agreeing with the other poster, but this argument is so awful that I can’t just ignore it.
What if the assaulter was tall? Am I supposed to slouch all day everyday? Am I literally not allowed to exist because there are horrible people in the world of varying height?
I’m gonna be honest with you, chief: I’m gay and I love boobies and butts. I stare all the time. I try to do it in a way that doesn’t cause discomfort, but if I’m behind a nice ass on the stairs, I’m gonna enjoy the view.
The only part of the above argument that I’m interested in debunking is the idea that clothes are consent. Since clothes can’t always be changed, clothes as a form of consent is difficult to revoke. And any consent that can’t be revoked isn’t legitimate.
Or maybe its not as clean cut you make it out to be. I respect your decision to not talk this out in this forum but ‘they stupid’ is a very $choose your adjective response.