I mean, I’ve wanted to talk deep with people, but I realised what I considered talking deep feels stupid talk when you’re not in the zone.

Like, people say they wanna talk about space and stuff, but there’s scientists already doing that, and in a more meaningful way.

Like, I can’t understand what I even want at this point. That feel of talking deep with someone, but when I actually think of talking about it, it sounds like I was high. Like what kinda deep talk can a average guy like me can even have?

  • FinjaminPoach
    1·
    5 days ago

    To me, thoughts are like layers of a building. Maybe best to imagine you’re exploring a labyrinth with deeper and deeper layers.

    • Things you idly think to yourself from glancing at something are layer 1 thoughts. “The cat is blue.” “That person is attractive.”
    • Layer 2: “the cat is blue, someone must have painted it” and “That person is attractive (to me) because of how they dress and their high cheekbones”
    • Layer 3
    • layer 4
    • layer 5 “…and why does that person dress that way? Did they feel pressured to dress so well because their beauty was always praised?” Or “will that cat be okay? I know that blue paint often contains polymadeupethyline, which can ruin the appetites of humans - will it have the same effect on cats?”

    Layer 5 is deep thoughts. It can get deeper. But i suppose i would quantify it as being deeply connected, by branches, to other thoughts. Deeply rooted perhaps.

    When you think deeply about things, you get better at analysing problems.

    That feel of talking deep with someone, but when I actually think of talking about it, it sounds like I was high. Like what kinda deep talk can a average guy like me can even have?

    Something i love talking about in depth is movies, but if I’m completely candid with you I think I had to engage with YouTube essays to learn to do so effectively. You learn fast when the topic is something you enjoy. I study engineering but I recently did an English course externally just for fun, and I was so much more engaged with that then my main course. Human passion is a curse, but without it we stop being human or even animal. With no impetus to do anything, perhaps.

    Your own fear is the dam wall holding back a reservoir of curiosity. Let it flow forth. Everything else will come.

    The most important thing is just look for what you’re into, and latch onto it, and engage with it in as many ways as possible - not just reading and study but doing activities adjacent to it.

    • FinjaminPoach
      1·
      5 days ago

      I genuinely enjoy deep thought and unfortunately phone usage really represses it. Friends that don’t accommodate deep talks/lack of people to talk to full stop (no shams in it) similarly repressed the amount of deep talk that can be done.

      • AskewLord@piefed.socialEnglish
        2·
        5 days ago

        people think you are are a mentally ill weirdo if you try to communicate beyond a superficial level these days. because everything has to fit into a short text messages of no more than like 25 words. otherwise it’s ‘too long to read’.

        and they wonder why they are so depressed, anxious, sad, and lonely… well because this is what you choose. you choose a shallow miserable existence and it makes you miserable… rather than making choices that require more effort that would resolve the issues and lack of connection.

        and when you point this out to people they get very angry and insult you because, you’re using too many words and they’d rather go back to watching tiktoks and feeling depressed about their life.