I curated my life to suit my preferences. I’m working part time instead of full time and I’m pretty frugal. No drugs or alcohol. Lots of video games with friends, 3 d&d campaigns, working out with my significant other, reading, growing some peppers in the yard, designing my own TTRPG, drinking lots of (decaf) coffee and tea.
The biggest change was the realization that I can’t make others happy if I’m not happy. I’m a people pleaser at heart, but constantly putting my SO’s preferences ahead of mine made me depressed. We’ve both made concessions but we’ve arrived at a place we can both be happy.
I work for the state government in a fairly small town. My wife works full time and we don’t have any dependents. We got a great deal on the house because we didn’t go through a real estate agent - a coworker was looking to sell and we jumped on that.
I curated my life to suit my preferences. I’m working part time instead of full time and I’m pretty frugal. No drugs or alcohol. Lots of video games with friends, 3 d&d campaigns, working out with my significant other, reading, growing some peppers in the yard, designing my own TTRPG, drinking lots of (decaf) coffee and tea.
The biggest change was the realization that I can’t make others happy if I’m not happy. I’m a people pleaser at heart, but constantly putting my SO’s preferences ahead of mine made me depressed. We’ve both made concessions but we’ve arrived at a place we can both be happy.
can you tell me , what part time job do you work that allows you to afford your own place to live please?
I work for the state government in a fairly small town. My wife works full time and we don’t have any dependents. We got a great deal on the house because we didn’t go through a real estate agent - a coworker was looking to sell and we jumped on that.
…ah so you got impossibly lucky. I see. Congratz on the new place.