Seemed to work. You’re here. You reached out, joined this community and are talking to like minded people. Gooba gobba gooba gooba gabba! We accept you! Once of us! One of us!
I was already a geek that used internet to escape reality nearly 30 years ago. That part hasn’t changed. He wanted my to do it physically. Like, join the local Esperanto club or something like that.
And as much as he may have been right, sometimes what matters most is how it’s brought up and said. It felt like he was trying to convince me to “go join them!”, or more accurately “come join us!”. As if it was a cult and the only natural thing to do. Just like society makes me feel in general.
It sounds like he lacked tact and maybe is just a bad therapist tbh. I dunno, maybe he’d be good for socialite types, but I feel like a good therapist meets you where you’re at. I think the first session or two should be dedicated to learning about you with minimal suggestions for change. It sounds like even you’re aware that more of that type of thing might be benificial, but making changes like that take a lot of work on yourself over a signifigant length of time, and a suggestion from a therapist isn’t where it needs to come from, you need to come to the conclusion yourself.
That’s my take as someone who has seen only two people, the first was bad and the second has been great, she did exactly that, basically just listened and asked questions for the first couple times I saw her. Even now she doesn’t really make concrete suggestions, more asks leading questions that make me think and come to conclusions on my own. Tbh sometimes I just wish she’d tell me what to do haha, but I know that’d piss me off and that isn’t how it works at all.
Seemed to work. You’re here. You reached out, joined this community and are talking to like minded people. Gooba gobba gooba gooba gabba! We accept you! Once of us! One of us!
I was already a geek that used internet to escape reality nearly 30 years ago. That part hasn’t changed. He wanted my to do it physically. Like, join the local Esperanto club or something like that.
And as much as he may have been right, sometimes what matters most is how it’s brought up and said. It felt like he was trying to convince me to “go join them!”, or more accurately “come join us!”. As if it was a cult and the only natural thing to do. Just like society makes me feel in general.
It sounds like he lacked tact and maybe is just a bad therapist tbh. I dunno, maybe he’d be good for socialite types, but I feel like a good therapist meets you where you’re at. I think the first session or two should be dedicated to learning about you with minimal suggestions for change. It sounds like even you’re aware that more of that type of thing might be benificial, but making changes like that take a lot of work on yourself over a signifigant length of time, and a suggestion from a therapist isn’t where it needs to come from, you need to come to the conclusion yourself.
That’s my take as someone who has seen only two people, the first was bad and the second has been great, she did exactly that, basically just listened and asked questions for the first couple times I saw her. Even now she doesn’t really make concrete suggestions, more asks leading questions that make me think and come to conclusions on my own. Tbh sometimes I just wish she’d tell me what to do haha, but I know that’d piss me off and that isn’t how it works at all.