Well I don’t think people should ‘go on’ about it, and communication between partners is the key to figure out which jobs each like (or dislike least) so as to make things fair and easiest for both; but, there are on average differences between men and women’s brains so patterns based on sex will emerge. It’s why there are trans people - you can’t be the ‘wrong’ gendered brain for your body if there is no difference.
tell that to the trans people who say shit to me like ‘it’s a bug and your a man so you have to kill it for me’.
I don’t even really identify as a ‘man’ btw, but yet it’s still forced on me regardless of whether I want it to be or not.
And if I argue that point, they are not going to listen or concede, they are just going to tell me I’m a piece of shit.
You and I can argue all we want about our gender, but doesn’t mean people who aren’t use give a shit about it. They are just going to go with the default of ‘you look like x so you get treated like x’
Well as a cis man, I usually call my cis wife to deal with bugs because I’m squeamish about bugs and she isn’t! I would say the point is that you do what’s good for you. And if you and your partner can’t figure out a good balance especially if they’re sexist assoles, trans or otherwise, then you shouldn’t be partners. And if you have the energy, call out people for being sexist whether they’re trans or not; but otherwise just ignore them and don’t hang around them voluntarily. You don’t need that many friends; it’s more important that your friends aren’t assholes.
I’d rather just be alone on both fronts. Life is too short to be miserable. When I’m alone nobody lecture me about my gender and I have yet to ever meet a person who doesn’t do that. Honestly the conservative trad people I have met lecture me less about it than all the progressive liberals, who are utterly obsessed with policing everyone’s gender identity now. Even to the point now where I will no longer hang out in public spaces anymore because I’m sick of some random insane person approaching me looking to start a fight about how I look and their perception of me as a Trump supporter based on my face/body shape or whatever nonsense they believe and their insane entitled sense of ‘protecting’ themselves from ‘people like you’. Apparently my physical existence in public space, quieting minding my own business reading a book, is now ‘harassment’, or so I have been repeatedly told the past few years.
You know who doesn’t care about my gender? My dog and my cat. Weird how that works.
Yeah, it would certainly be a etter world if people were more like dogs and cats. I’m sorry to hear that people bother you about gender. In the 80’s I thought we were headingvto a place in the west where everyone was androgynous and people just wore what they wanted and fucked who they wanted. In some ways I think the trans culture is a step in the wrong direction as it actually emphasizes conservative sexist notions. But I support it because of the prevailing notion that people should be able to be however they want if it doesn’t hurt others. I’m slightly curious why people would think you’re maga by site unless you wear a red hat or you have swastika tats. Of course almost everyone who challenges you on your identity is really just insecure about their own identity and is lashing out as a pathetic defensive mechanism. Still, there are some good people out there, and it’s worth having a few good friends if you can find them - sometimes you have to be patient and work through people own insecurities and defenses to build trust and develop a real friendship. Same goes for dogs if you get a rescue that’s been abused - it can take a long time being there for them and ignoring the snarls which come from fear. Eventually you end up with the most loyal and loving friend possible.
Well I don’t think people should ‘go on’ about it, and communication between partners is the key to figure out which jobs each like (or dislike least) so as to make things fair and easiest for both; but, there are on average differences between men and women’s brains so patterns based on sex will emerge. It’s why there are trans people - you can’t be the ‘wrong’ gendered brain for your body if there is no difference.
tell that to the trans people who say shit to me like ‘it’s a bug and your a man so you have to kill it for me’.
I don’t even really identify as a ‘man’ btw, but yet it’s still forced on me regardless of whether I want it to be or not.
And if I argue that point, they are not going to listen or concede, they are just going to tell me I’m a piece of shit.
You and I can argue all we want about our gender, but doesn’t mean people who aren’t use give a shit about it. They are just going to go with the default of ‘you look like x so you get treated like x’
Well as a cis man, I usually call my cis wife to deal with bugs because I’m squeamish about bugs and she isn’t! I would say the point is that you do what’s good for you. And if you and your partner can’t figure out a good balance especially if they’re sexist assoles, trans or otherwise, then you shouldn’t be partners. And if you have the energy, call out people for being sexist whether they’re trans or not; but otherwise just ignore them and don’t hang around them voluntarily. You don’t need that many friends; it’s more important that your friends aren’t assholes.
I’d rather just be alone on both fronts. Life is too short to be miserable. When I’m alone nobody lecture me about my gender and I have yet to ever meet a person who doesn’t do that. Honestly the conservative trad people I have met lecture me less about it than all the progressive liberals, who are utterly obsessed with policing everyone’s gender identity now. Even to the point now where I will no longer hang out in public spaces anymore because I’m sick of some random insane person approaching me looking to start a fight about how I look and their perception of me as a Trump supporter based on my face/body shape or whatever nonsense they believe and their insane entitled sense of ‘protecting’ themselves from ‘people like you’. Apparently my physical existence in public space, quieting minding my own business reading a book, is now ‘harassment’, or so I have been repeatedly told the past few years.
You know who doesn’t care about my gender? My dog and my cat. Weird how that works.
Yeah, it would certainly be a etter world if people were more like dogs and cats. I’m sorry to hear that people bother you about gender. In the 80’s I thought we were headingvto a place in the west where everyone was androgynous and people just wore what they wanted and fucked who they wanted. In some ways I think the trans culture is a step in the wrong direction as it actually emphasizes conservative sexist notions. But I support it because of the prevailing notion that people should be able to be however they want if it doesn’t hurt others. I’m slightly curious why people would think you’re maga by site unless you wear a red hat or you have swastika tats. Of course almost everyone who challenges you on your identity is really just insecure about their own identity and is lashing out as a pathetic defensive mechanism. Still, there are some good people out there, and it’s worth having a few good friends if you can find them - sometimes you have to be patient and work through people own insecurities and defenses to build trust and develop a real friendship. Same goes for dogs if you get a rescue that’s been abused - it can take a long time being there for them and ignoring the snarls which come from fear. Eventually you end up with the most loyal and loving friend possible.
I look like a frat bro.