FYI: as someone who did a lot of experimenting in this regard before starting HRT, it is entirely possible for a testosterone-dominant body to have orgasms similar to what people on estrogen experience (long, full-body sensations without ejaculation. These can often be chained with little to no refractory period, unlike “regular” penile orgasms which last a few seconds at most, with most of the sensations concentrated in the penis itself and long recovery periods).

There are quite a few techniques to achieve it, but the basic idea involves carefully controlled stimulation (as well as focusing on specific sensations) to reach orgasm without triggering the ejaculation reflex. Contrary to popular belief, the two do NOT necessarily have to go together, and it’s ejaculation which releases the hormones causing the temporary drop in arousal (“post-nut-clarity”) and the long delay until you’re ready to go again. The technique I found most reliable consisted mainly of the following:

• Stimulate only the penile frenulum, carefully moderating both speed and intensity. Just a little back-and-forth with one or two fingers should do it; going too intensely will push you over into regular penile orgasm territory.
• Keep your body relaxed. Most importantly, the pelvic floor muscles need to be fully relaxed the whole time, which can take some practice because they reflexively want to contract whenever the penis is stimulated.
• It’s kinda hard to describe in words, but try to focus more on the feelings in your head and upper body rather than the penis itself. Ideally you’re trying to focus on the gradually rising sensation of pleasure which feels like it’s coming from the back/top of your skull, that one is the “girl orgasm” you’re trying to reach (rather than the much “sharper” and more concentrated pleasure coming from the glans penis).
• Slow and steady wins the race - going quickly will trigger a penile orgasm with ejaculation, it’s much more important that you have a consistent rate of stimulation so that you can focus on the arousal as it builds. Expect to be at it for like half an hour or more before full orgasms start actually happening - if you want the same orgasms girls get you need an equivalent amount of “foreplay” to get yourself ready :)

A lot of this is very hard to put into words and you really have to practice to be able to feel the difference between regular “guy arousal” and “girl arousal”. It took me quite a few months (and a lot of failed attempts) to really get the hang of it, but eventually I reached the point where I could have 2-3 consecutive full-body orgasms lasting like 30+ seconds each with only a few seconds between them to catch my breath. Since starting estrogen I now get “girl orgasms” by default without having to put in much additional thought, but can say with certainty that what I was doing before was the real deal.

Happy to explain more if you’re interested :)