Yes, I’m aware of the cissexual trans people, and the political conflict within the community revolving around them, though I think you’re certainly confused about the modern understanding of a lot of this within the trans community. If you’re going to draw a line anywhere, hormones are a much better place than bottom surgery, speaking as someone who’s undergone both. Hell, there are even nonbinary bottom surgeries these days, with both and neither being on the table.

All of this is however generally unrelated to the fact that how people use the words male and female right now is kinda a shitshow. You’ve got people like me using them as the adjective of gender, others using them like you, then still others using them to refer to assigned sex at birth (especially among those who reject the idea that most aspects of sex are mutable or that sex is a bimodal distribution of many traits, most of which are bimodally distributed themselves, but instead argue it’s a binary based on a single trait).