Not everything fits into nice neat boxes. My failed marriage was not shallow because I withheld information that meant nothing to me. I never so much as looked at another person in a way that would not pass the sniff test, because I loved the mother of our son with everything I had.
I was happy being the “family man”, even though I felt how I did inside; having what I had was more than enough for me. ~23ish years old with a wife, a son, a house, and a car—perfection.
It’s hard to say that when a friend outed me to her, if her reaction was informed by the animosity of the height of a messy divorce, or whether it really hit a nerve. We were young, and were not equipped to deal with the major changes that were occurring in rapid realtime.
What have you to say about this? You pass judgment on a multi-year multi-dimensional partnership, and I say shame on you.
In the future, I’d recommend keeping your insulting comments to yourself.
I say that regardless of if you believe something you are doing is right or wrong that withholding it from someone while knowing it could end your relationship is in any sain situation a selfish act.
Also I would say that people make mistakes and it if that is something you regret then it’s okay to forgive yourself and move on
My read on the situation based on what you typed is that you don’t see any harm in withholding something that you apparently believed would matter to the other person. I’m not caught up on if being bi or trans or whatever is actually wrong somehow in itself if that is how I’m coming across
Why tell your partner anything you don’t want to if it’s inconvenient for you. Many would agree that is the foundation for a healthy relationship!
All jokes aside I actually don’t see the issue if the relationship is so shallow that you both agree that secrets are on the table I suppose.
Not everything fits into nice neat boxes. My failed marriage was not shallow because I withheld information that meant nothing to me. I never so much as looked at another person in a way that would not pass the sniff test, because I loved the mother of our son with everything I had.
I was happy being the “family man”, even though I felt how I did inside; having what I had was more than enough for me. ~23ish years old with a wife, a son, a house, and a car—perfection.
It’s hard to say that when a friend outed me to her, if her reaction was informed by the animosity of the height of a messy divorce, or whether it really hit a nerve. We were young, and were not equipped to deal with the major changes that were occurring in rapid realtime.
What have you to say about this? You pass judgment on a multi-year multi-dimensional partnership, and I say shame on you.
In the future, I’d recommend keeping your insulting comments to yourself.
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I say that regardless of if you believe something you are doing is right or wrong that withholding it from someone while knowing it could end your relationship is in any sain situation a selfish act.
Also I would say that people make mistakes and it if that is something you regret then it’s okay to forgive yourself and move on
My read on the situation based on what you typed is that you don’t see any harm in withholding something that you apparently believed would matter to the other person. I’m not caught up on if being bi or trans or whatever is actually wrong somehow in itself if that is how I’m coming across