If I can roll with the punches and joke and laugh about the little jabs at my gender or sexuality or the comments about my genitals constantly, I just kind of figured talking about somebody’s height in a way. That’s pretty damn positive and badass would be fair game but, then again, I’m probably autistic and don’t necessarily comprehend the way some things come across but. I think there was kind of a double standard at that job because as the only quote on quote dude there, I generally received most of the harassment. And most of it was in good faith and I took it really well. So like you know God forbid I get the courage to try to come up with something to respond with. I just didn’t know talking about somebody’s height is so damn degrading is all.
Interactions involve more than just you, and your standards.
You say you can roll with the punches so other should too. By that logic, others can understand implicit emotional boundaries, so you should too. Instead you’re behaving like your values are everyone else’s values too.
I’m autistic so I can be plenty socially inept, but I don’t use it as an excuse or shield to be self-centered.
Socially inept. I mean yeah I always wonder if I’m on some kind of spectrum with that. I don’t know if I was necessarily trying to use a shield but I don’t really necessarily always acknowledge that. Maybe I am and don’t necessarily fully comprehend when I’m being that way. I guess it just seems like I was trying to fit in and play back while they’re teasing me so I try to tease back and it is kind of hard for me to understand when it seems like. I guess I hit hit a nerve. Anyway, I don’t know why I’m still even going on about this because obviously the consensus it seems is. I was in the wrong for what I said. But I guess it is what is is. I do appreciate some perspective though. Gives me something to I think about it and maybe it’ll help me evaluate my my socially inept behaviors before I make them next time.
I mean, you’re being open, vulnerable, and self-critical which not a lot of people can do, and that’s where growth comes from. That’s admirable.
Some people don’t care enough to try, so whether you’re on the spectrum or not, you clearly have empathy, maybe others should have empathy for you too, starting with me.
“Hey, I’m making a comment on your appearance.”
“Hey, I’m doing it again, even though you didn’t react positively the first time.”
“Hey, I’m doing it a third time, and you aren’t responding to it how I Want you to.”
“Hey, I’m doing it a FOURTH TIME and I can see you CLEARLY don’t like it.”
“WHY DON’T YOU TAKE IT AS A COMPLEMENT?!”
If I can roll with the punches and joke and laugh about the little jabs at my gender or sexuality or the comments about my genitals constantly, I just kind of figured talking about somebody’s height in a way. That’s pretty damn positive and badass would be fair game but, then again, I’m probably autistic and don’t necessarily comprehend the way some things come across but. I think there was kind of a double standard at that job because as the only quote on quote dude there, I generally received most of the harassment. And most of it was in good faith and I took it really well. So like you know God forbid I get the courage to try to come up with something to respond with. I just didn’t know talking about somebody’s height is so damn degrading is all.
Interactions involve more than just you, and your standards.
You say you can roll with the punches so other should too. By that logic, others can understand implicit emotional boundaries, so you should too. Instead you’re behaving like your values are everyone else’s values too.
I’m autistic so I can be plenty socially inept, but I don’t use it as an excuse or shield to be self-centered.
Socially inept. I mean yeah I always wonder if I’m on some kind of spectrum with that. I don’t know if I was necessarily trying to use a shield but I don’t really necessarily always acknowledge that. Maybe I am and don’t necessarily fully comprehend when I’m being that way. I guess it just seems like I was trying to fit in and play back while they’re teasing me so I try to tease back and it is kind of hard for me to understand when it seems like. I guess I hit hit a nerve. Anyway, I don’t know why I’m still even going on about this because obviously the consensus it seems is. I was in the wrong for what I said. But I guess it is what is is. I do appreciate some perspective though. Gives me something to I think about it and maybe it’ll help me evaluate my my socially inept behaviors before I make them next time.
I mean, you’re being open, vulnerable, and self-critical which not a lot of people can do, and that’s where growth comes from. That’s admirable.
Some people don’t care enough to try, so whether you’re on the spectrum or not, you clearly have empathy, maybe others should have empathy for you too, starting with me.
You’re right, I was thorny, and I’m sorry.