It happened to me recently at work. I don’t even find her physically attractive, and her personality is not what I’m into at all. But I was still somehow attracted to her - and she also was to me. She didn’t like me, and I certainly am not the kind of man she goes for. It’s like we had a strong connection in one area beneath the subconscious or something, but every other area was completely incompatible. Aggressively so.
Anyone else have anything similar?
Very often. There are multiple kinds of attraction, esthetic and sexual don’t always overlap 100%. Meaning to say sexual attraction is not just visual - attitude, vibe, voice, smell, etc also play a role.
And none of it means you will get along with them on the personality level.
It’s just life. Part of interacting with other humans.
That makes sense. There was a brief period that we actually got along, joked around etc. That was cool. Then it went back to the grinding awkwardness.
One of my best friends in the world is of the opposite gender. We did sleep together once, a long time ago. We both agree it was awesome but we also both agree we ain’t right for each other. We’re both married (to other people) with kids now. No regrets, she’s friends with my wife and I with her husband. Any temptation to re-tread that experience? Nope, not at all (from me anyway, no indication that she feels any differently)
I don’t have a point to make, just replying to stuff with random musings while waiting for a haircut.
Does your wife know?
Yep